People who are really amazing: talk, can hide, understand change

"Cai Gen Tan" has a saying: "The heart of harm is indispensable, and the heart of preventing people is indispensable."

When people live in the world, they must have good thoughts, not harmful people, but also be vigilant, and they must not prevent people.

For the life, you must keep a snack. This is not to calculate others, but to better protect yourself.

Most of those who often suffer, often deceive, and often hurt, are mostly stubborn and no city.

Those who are really powerful often have three characteristics: they can speak, can hide, and understand.

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Speak

"Xunzi" says: "To be honest, know;

Talking properly is the manifestation of rationality and wisdom; the silence is also a manifestation of reason and wisdom.

Talking is a kind of ability and a kind of wisdom; understanding that shut up is a kind of cultivation and a state.

Writer Feng Jicai has told a story in "The Wonderful World".

There is a craftsman who sells tea soup in Tianjin. He is called Yang Ba. The tea soup he made is very delicious.

Once, Li Hongzhang came to Tianjin, and local officials asked Yang Ba to make a bowl of authentic tea soup for Li Hongzhang.

When Yang Ba brought up the tea soup, Li Hongzhang frowned, and he overturned the soup bowl. The person in the seat did not know what Li Hongzhang meant, and he was so scared that he dared not breathe.

At this time, Yang Ba understood it, Li Hongzhang used the sesame seeds in the tea soup as dirty things.

Yang Ba just wanted to tell Li Hongzhang that this was a sesame.

After thinking for a while, Yang Ba hurriedly knelt on the ground, and a few noises.

Then he said, "The villain does not know that the middle hall does not like the crushing sesame seeds. If you don't remember the villain, you can spare me."

After he finished speaking, Li Hongzhang knew that the soup bowl was sesame seeds. At that time, he felt that the boy was too smart. He not only kept his face as the face of the middle hall, but also told himself the truth.

Li Hongzhang borrowed the donkey and said, "Although I don't like crushing sesame seeds, this tea soup is really delicious, it's time to reward!"

After he finished speaking, he asked the people to reward Yang Ba.

People who can speak must be a person who knows how to observe the words. He knows what to say, what should not say, and can handle the relationship with anyone.

Lin Yutang mentioned in "The Art of Speaking":

Speaking is equivalent to expressing it, but to express a good word, it requires cleverness. If it is not good, it will easily offend people.

Some people like to go straight and go straight, never care about the feelings of others, and think that it is a disadvantage.

The mouth is not observed, and it is easy to come out of the mouth; the mouth vomiting good words often can avoid bad luck.

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Be able to hide

"Zhou Yi" said: "A gentleman hidden in the body, to move from time to time."

The gentleman's excellent talents can not show off everywhere, but can exert it at a necessary moment.

It is a way of self -protection and self -worthy survival.

Zeng Guofan, the first minister in the late Qing Dynasty, was well versed in the truth of the hiding and clumsy, in order to ingenious in the complex officialdom.

In the three years of Tongzhi, after Zeng Guofan's brother led the Xiang Army to break through Tianjing, the country was celebrating up and down, and even the emperor was excited.

However, Zeng Guofan's years of official official experience told him: Gong Gao Zhenzhu will endanger his net worth.

Therefore, he said in the memorials to the court: "There are too many ministers, that is, the derived of 30,000 or 40,000 people, in order to make the cost."

Out of their understanding and familiarity with the Qing court, and the understanding of his brother Zeng Guoquan, Zeng Guofan also invited Zeng Guoquan to return to his hometown for recuperation while the abolition of the Xiang army.

Because at the time, Zeng Guoquan was breaking through Tianjing's actions, and once became the target of the criticism, and the Qing government was worried that he would gather as hesitated, so he wanted to let him leave the barracks early, and did not want to sit for a real power.

At this time, Zeng Guofan allowed him to return to his hometown for recuperation on the grounds of his illness. He soon was approved by the Qing government and rewarded Zeng Guoquan to ginseng to show comfort.

Although his brother did not understand the behavior of Zeng Guofan for a while, and even resent Zeng Guofan, in the end, Zeng Shi could come to the end in the entire officialdom, which proved that Zeng Guofan's Zangfeng Shouzhuang was foresight.

The hiding front is not cowardly and durable, but the great wisdom and realm of life.

The "Lunar Lunaries" of Wei Likang of the Three Kingdoms said:

Mu Xiu is in Lin, and the wind will destroy it; pile up on the shore, flowing will be turbulent;

Those who love themselves too much often do not understand the wisdom of hiding their clumsy.

When doing things, when necessary, learn to hide your true intentions.

"Jin Yuyuan" also said: "When people just say three points, I can't throw my heart."

I always take my heart and can't hide my heart.

The edge is revealed, and it will inevitably be jealous; if it is clumsy, it will not cause trouble.

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Understand the change

"Sweet Furnace Night Talk" has a saying: "If you pass it, you will be pedantic, but you will be clumsy."

It is easy to be unreasonable to be a person; if you do too straightforward, it seems a little clumsy.

Sometimes, persistence may not be correct, knowing how to change is wisdom.

There is a person who practiced meditation to visit the Master:

"How is the relationship between a person and others?"

The master said four words to him.

The first sentence: "Take yourself as someone else."

The student thought about it and said, "Taking yourself as someone else, so you can quickly pass by." The master said the second sentence again: "Taking others as yourself."

The student thought about it and said, "This means to compare his heart, push himself, and think in other places."

The master laughed: "You are very good."

Then he said the third sentence: "Taking others as others."

Students frowned and said, "Does everyone say that everyone is independent and everyone needs to be respected, so must they start from the standpoint of others?"

The master said, "Your understanding is very good."

Then, he said the fourth sentence again: "Take yourself as yourself."

The student sat in a long while: "This sentence is too deep, I have to realize it."

This dialogue, which looks like a text game, contains deep Zen.

The transformation value of these "self" and "others" lies in: every time you change different angles to think.

Many times, learning to change can be unbeaten.

In the life of a person, it is a mango who slammed and fights blindly.

"Zhou Yi" said: "Poor changes, change, and passing for a long time.

When things reach the extreme point, it will change, the change can be achieved, and the access can be maintained for a long time.

Following the principle of "change", you can move with the potential, and it is not good.

The mountains are not towering; the flowing water is not only, and it is smart.

Many times, the reason why people fail is because they insist on the wrong thing, but they do not know the change.

Story and stubbornness, it is easy to hit the south wall; rounding and changing can be dark.

Zhuge Liang said: "The magnificent spirit of the lord should not be arrogant."

It means that the spirit of promoting the spirit of the scholars should not watch themselves casually.

A person's life is constantly denying himself and affirming himself. Blind will definitely become the University, and always deny that it will form inferiority.

People who are really amazing are good at facing themselves and improving themselves:

Talking, good words to warm people's hearts; can hide the front and keep the opportunity; understand the change of passage, and no good.

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Author: neighbor with Wen. Source: Brief Reading of Guoxue (ID: guoxjd123).

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