"I advise you to be an emotional instability adult"

There was such a video a while ago, there was a hot search:

After a girl in Guiyang came home from get off work, she suddenly cried because she couldn't tear up the paper on the hair.

The girl revealed in the video:

I have worked hard since I was a child, but I always took 59 points.

On the way home, the child riding a bicycle was hit, but he was scolded by his parents for a long time.

There is only one person when I get home, I feel cold.

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The backlog of small things was stamped together, and eventually broke the girl's emotional gate. All grievances and sadness turned into tears at that moment.

Many netizens in the comment area say that they feel the same.

We often hear a sentence: real mature people have already quit their emotions.

So everyone began to ask themselves:

After being misunderstood by friends, he swallowed silently; he could only silently silent.

It seems that only by quitting emotions can a qualified adult.

However, the fact is far from the same -emotions are not flood beasts, nor do they need to quit.

American psychologist David once made a point of view: emotion is the key factor in our courage, perseverance, happiness and success.

Each of our lives is inseparable from emotions, and it is the source of all joy and sorrow.

The best way to treat emotions is to coexist with it and make it a help of life.

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Emotion can be hidden, but the damage will not disguise

Some people say: Just playing an emotional adult, it has spent all the strength.

We seem to have all experienced such experiences:

I did n’t sleep all night the night before, and I still had to work full of spirit to work on the next day; my heart was already sorrowful, but I still had to squeeze out with a smile and say "Hello"; Swallow it with anger.

On the surface, we always pretended to be light and light, but our hearts had already been backbone.

Chinese medicine psychologist Xiao Ran shared a story during his speech:

He has received a patient, and the patient's heart and pulse cannot be beating normally.

As soon as I was asked, the patient's internal nerves were torn in the heart of the patient, and it was called "the heart beam is broken."

During the subsequent consultation process, Xiao Ran learned:

Six years ago, the patient's mother died in a car accident. The patient was very sad at the time, but did not shed a tear.

Excessive sadness makes the patient lose the ability to cry.

In the following six years, patients often recalled their mothers and were sad every time, but they did not lose a drop of tears.

Slowly, she had heart failure and suffered from severe heart disease.

Later, Xiao Ran guided patients and mother to say goodbye and taught her to reveal to release sadness.

After a few months of psychological guidance, the patient finally gained the ability to "cry" again, and his heart began to recover miraculously.

Xiao Ran said: "One kind of trauma is both inner trauma, but also records on the body, existing in the form of disease."

To some extent, depression is self -harm.

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Psychologist Louis Hay depicts a physical and mental corresponding table in the book "Healing Your Body":

Diagnosis is because I feel exclusive or scared of some kind of thought; ear pain is because I feel angry about what I hear; cough is because nervousness is too nervous and depressed; eczema is because of being too sensitive to some things and being harmed; anemia; anemia It is because of the depression, the thoughts are sluggish ...

Adults always hide their emotions in their hearts, thinking that they will be digested like food.

However, the fact is that the depressed emotions will devour our health unknowingly.

Only learn to make emotions naturally reveal, and people can have a healthy body and mind.

Allowing yourself to collapse is the wisdom of adults

There is a word circulating on the Internet: children are crying and making trouble, how can adults have time to be confusing.

This is also the true portrayal of many adults.

Once chic and deliberate, after entering the society, we unconsciously put away all emotions.

However, the mood of putting away will never disappear out of thin air. The longer the backlog, the greater the negative impact.

In the TV series "Come on, Mom", the heroine Zhou Nannan is a single mother.

When she is middle -aged, she must not only worry about her son who is going to school and take care of the hospital, but also takes into account work performance.

However, God did not pity her because of this.

The house was deceived, the mother died due to myocardial infarction, her son's biological father returned to the country to fight for custody, the company's customers were snatched by colleagues ...

The dual blow of her career and family made her fall into the abyss of despair.

But the reality did not allow her to stop and rest. She had to work and live normally like her walking dead.

But the more pretending nothing to happen, the more suffering from her heart, and the worse her life was.

Fortunately, when she was strongly supported by not letting her collapse, the male lead Lu Chuan told her: "Zhou Nanyan, cry, cry, you are just an ordinary person."

At that moment, Zhou Nannan suddenly enlightened, and she finally stopped stretching, but cried quickly.

After crying, she re -planned her life and gradually recovered her rhythm.

Later, she not only recaptured the custody of her son, but also realized the ideal of her youth and opened a dessert shop.

Freud once said that the emotions that have not been expressed will never disappear. They are only buried alive, and one day will erupt in a more ugly way.

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A moment of forbearance may not affect our daily life; but long -term depression will definitely hurt our lives. People who are really amazing have long realized:

Emotion is an indispensable part of us, and we need to use it to adjust our lives.

We can still believe in the beauty of human nature after betrayal, and of course, we can also shout at the sky and release the anger;

After being hit hard, we can move forward with a smile. Of course, we can cry on the unmanned night and digest sadness.

Allowing yourself to collapse is the wisdom of adults.

Use thinking in clever use to sublimate emotions

When people are in adversity, they often use "solving thinking" to eliminate obstacles for themselves.

But emotions are different from other lives of life. The more they want to solve, the more likely it is to be rejected.

The best way is to use "existence thinking" to consider emotions as an indispensable part of us, and accept the fact that we will be affected by emotions.

In the program of "Wonderful Story", "Do you want to drink and forget the sad water", the debater Huang Zhizhong shared a story:

After experiencing popularity, love, divorce, and quarrel with his teammates, a friend was constantly questioned by the outside world, so that he did not dare to go out of the house.

Because she always felt that someone was paying attention to her outside, and those who had Internet storms had been on her. As long as she thought of this, she felt painful.

In the face of depression, she was at a loss, and even closed her heart -not to reveal a word to the outside world, and speculated with the biggest malicious speculation.

Ma Weiwei was present admitting: "This friend is me."

Few people believe that sharp and powerful as Ma Weiwei will be depressed, but the reality is unquestionable.

In this regard, Ma Weiwei responded:

You see, not fragile talents will get sick, nor is it an optimistic person who can go up.

Life is ups and downs, there are some things, I can't see it.

What really let me get out of depression is not medicine or others, but when I no longer control my emotions and no longer conceal my condition.

It felt like I finally gave up my armor, but picked up the sword again.

When the negative emotions such as anxiety, sadness, and fear come like mountains, we always habitually escape, depression, and confrontation, forcing ourselves to be optimistic and positive, but often violate their wishes.

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Because the more struggling, the more deep.

If you want to solve one thing desperately, it will become the real problem; if it can face its existence, it can become an opportunity to improve itself.

Only by admitting and accepting the existence of emotions can we live peacefully with it and even turn it into a booster of life.

However, many times, we are not intended to be the enemy of emotions, but do not know how to get along with it. At this time

First, do not entangle it, because existence is reasonable.

When emotions appear, investigating the cause often causes people to fall into a deeper self -attack.

It is like the sun and the moon, which is a normal life phenomenon. As long as it does not hurt the fundamental to others, let it dance by himself.

Second, do not exclude it, because there is no good or bad mood.

Angry made us aware of the existence of danger, fear kept us vigilant for the future, and sadness made us notice our needs.

When we accept the existence of these emotions, they can be released and moved to play a positive role.

Third, do not destroy it because emotions do not belong to us.

It is like a passer -by, just passing our lives. As long as we do not "actively retain", it will leave.

Ancient Roman philosopher Sinica once said:

"Almost any situation, whether it is good or bad, is affected by our attitude towards the situation."

People who are really amazing have long been not targeting "quitting emotions", because they know:

"Emotional harm is not there, but avoiding."

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At the end

Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said:

Any emotions, feelings, and experiences are naturally generated. They are telling us some information to guide us to the road of good growth.

And suppressing emotions is tantamount to blocking its own growth.

The real wise approach is:

Accept it, understand it, use it, and let it help us explore the wider side of life.

There are too many helplessness in the world of adults, we might as well be more kind to ourselves:

When I was happy, I laughed out with her eyebrows; when I was sad, I cried freely; when I was dissatisfied, I said straightforwardly.

Click "watching", and in the future, you can have emotional freedom, live and comfortable life.

Author: Weimang, explore the world in words. Source: Fan Deng Reading (ID: ReadingClub_BTFX).

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