What are the people who are 30 years old, what are they waiting for?

"Men stand in their thirties. Women must marry themselves before they are 30 years old." The concept of deep -rooted and fascinated was more and more loose today, and the age of people was getting older.

According to the "Bulletin of the Development of Civil Affairs in 2021", in 2021, 7.643 million pairs of marriage registrations were registered in accordance with the law throughout the year, a decrease of 6.1 % over the previous year.

From the perspective of the age distribution of the marriage registered population in 2021, the proportion of the ages of aged 30-34 and 35-39 reached a new high in recent years.

If you are 30 years old, the proportion of people at the age of 30 and over accounts for 48.2%, an increase of 1.7%over 2020.

Is it too late to get married in their 30s?

White -collar workers in the first -tier cities and young people living in the countryside will give the opposite answer.

What does "late marriage" mean for a person?

Is it "refused to meet, and finally wait for the right person", or is "more important to love each other"?

The novel "Late Marriage" is about a group of people around 30 years old. They no longer yearn for the love game chasing and chased, and they dare not step into marriage easily.

They knew that a little carelessly, marriage not only could not give them a shelter they wanted, but would break the stability that they had to build.

Mark Guo Shidun ｜ Chongqing Press

Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy" is almost synonymous with blood -sucking by native families. Huang Wansi in "Late Marriage" also has a similar experience.

She works in a foreign company in Beijing. Like the female white -collar workers in countless office buildings, she has exquisite makeup, wears famous -name clothes, and takes the same class of subways every day to rent in her own house. Life.

It's just that the delicate makeup and brand -name clothes cannot be covered. She also has a poor native family.

His father was gambling, and his mother swallowed.

After all, I was so desperate to study. In Beijing, she had her own work and earned money to support herself, but the family was still the shadow that she could not avoid it, and she needed her to return.

The family who built a house at home, her sister who was still in school also depended on her. Parents call, in addition to asking for money, tell her not to spend mess.

She lived in a tight life since she was a child. Looking at people and things, the first reaction was the price, and the second reaction was where money came.

She has no friends because socializing also needs to spend money.

When his peers care about fashion, travel, and falling in love, Huang Wansi only hopes to have a stable income and stable life.

She also talked about a good boyfriend with good conditions. When she talked about marriage, she took him back to the rural hometown. The man found the burden that might face the future and broke up when he returned.

After that, Huang Wansi had no hope of love and marriage.

Girlfriend Ling Qing asked her to start a business together. She refused. She had a stable job and had a lot of income. She could maintain her decentness and stabilize the local life. It was enough for her.

Fortunately, she was not under pressure to be urged by her family, because in her father's opinion, her daughter was married by someone else's house, and she was not so straightforward.

In this bustling hustle and bustle, Huang Wan silk seemed to be ease, but was full of disturbance. Born, life, and love, she can control it.

In a blink of an eye, Huang Wansi crossed the threshold of 30.

At the age of 30, no matter if you are anxious, there will be someone who is enthusiastic about Zhang Luo.

The girlfriend of the entrepreneurial boss introduced Yang Hao, the "single man" in the company to Huang Wanshi.

Yang Hao is four years old, her only child, her family is good, gentle and gentle, gentle and polite, and it seems that all aspects of conditions are ideal.

Perhaps it is to please the boss in a "curve to save the country", and Yang Hao, who has good conditions, expresses his enthusiastic likes to Huang Wansi.

The book wrote: "Before meeting him, her life was at most a scribbled lead manuscript, which was filled with color and shadow for her, making her rich and three -dimensional from pale monotonous. She brought a happy life. "

However, when facing a beautiful love from the sky, the inferior girl will always fall into doubt: What do he like me?

No matter who the other party is, Huang Wansi is always "selected".

Whoever is good to her, she can't help but treat others involuntarily, and the relationship will be warm. Although this enthusiasm may be a little insignificant, because she does not know how to refuse others without hurting, even if she does not invest in the first time, it over time, it over time, it over time, it is over time. There is also a little sincere.

Just when the two entered and retreated in love, Huang Wansi's most stable backing was gone. She was layoff up by the company and became an unemployed youth who had no house and no car in Beijing.

The workplace is often a turnaround in love. Taking this opportunity, Huang Wanli moved to the same way with Yang Hao.

Every time Wan Si encounters difficulties and wants to ask for help and suggestion, Yang Hao always says, "It's a big deal to raise you."

Wan Si knows that this is kind, but it is useless to her.

She still has to rely on herself. This is the most important thing for her life in more than 30 years.

From the end of the novel, this is a big reunion story.

Yang Hao's mother was seriously ill and needed to seek medical treatment in Beijing. He asked Wan Si to marry by the way. Even if his mother had an accident, he had a wish.

But before the wedding had time to do it, Yang Hao's mother died.

Yang Hao returned to his hometown to do a funeral and never returned for a long time.

Wan Si finally had time to quietly think about it: What exactly is the two people come together? They didn't even say "love you" once, so they were together and very hasty. In her eyes, Yang Hao's family was good, and she was rarely abandoning herself, while Yang Hao saw Wanshi a solid life and stable.

Perhaps it was not so loved, but it was "suitable" by the water.

After living in Yang Hao, they continued, and they both worked with each other and cooperated with each other. They maintained a story of "I still encounter true love after 30 years old", and slipped into a stable, peaceful, and standard happiness ending.

Some people say that in the process of reading, she does not like Huang Wansi. She is inferior to suspicious, half -pushing and half -pushing, but the more she finds her own shadow, the more she has her own shadow, afraid of conflict, pretending to be happy.

Brain scientists have discovered that the forefront cortex of the head of the brain's attention, complex planning, logical thinking, and personality development must not develop between 25 and 30 years old.

In other words, the real age of the brain's maturity must be after 25 years old, and the most important choices of many people in their lives, what majors, what work, and who married, and make a decision before the brain is mature.

Life since then is the process of taking responsibility for these choices.

Looking around, you will find a happy template for many early marriage and early childbirth and complete each life options in advance, and you will also find many emotional tragedies that meet people at the best age.

You will find that those who will never find the right "love myth" who will only find the right person in the past 40 years, and you will also see many lonely patients who are young and unattended.

Each choice has more than one ending.

As the popular little poem said:

You are not behind.

You are not ahead.

In the time zone that is arranged for you, everything is on time.

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