It's too cool to fall in love with normal men!

Author of this article: Hu Xin Shu.

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If the immersive chasing "Cang Lan Jue" seems to have a dream some time ago, then these days, the full person will enter a sage time, and the heart is empty.

I saw a sister who said, "It's sad to think of Dongfang Qing Cang in the world." Some people commented: There are not even Changye and Yan, but there are many chickens. The chickens still have the right to have momentum).

This pessimistic mentality is not difficult to understand. The feelings and feelings that you see and see around them will be more or less disappointed with this. I feel that a good man probably only exists in film and television dramas. Many friends' mate selection views have gradually transformed into only one requirement from the beginning of the "one -meter -eight abdominal muscles": just come to a normal man.

I used to be no exception. From the beginning of the first love, almost every relationship was not very complete. Unfortunately, I unfortunately experienced or witnessed the people around me being harmed by Neptune, controlling madness, derailment, chatting, cold violence. From time to time, there is no doubt in the painful relationship. Is there no normal man? It can't be that my requirements and standards are too high.

Until I was with the current, I realized how good the fall in love with normal men.

1. Enough to respect girls, do not treat women lightly, and will not degrade the value of women. If you have any questions, you will not make decisions for me and respect my thoughts.

In rare cases, stereotypes will be produced, and I will reflect on correction after I point out.

2. There is basic empathy, will not be indifferent to the disappointment, and will not show indifference and numbness to the negative news on the Internet, let alone deny the pain and anxiety of others.

Therefore, for the first time in history, "boyfriend can also be good friends", and discussed with him that social hot events will no longer expose their views and disagreement immediately as before, but unconsciously produce the same views and psychology.

At the same time, I am also willing to talk to him about his troubles. He will not be ignored and incomprehensible. He will listen patiently and stand on my perspective to help me analyze the problem.

3. In a relationship, you can maintain the minimum loyalty and keep a proper distance from other opposite sex. Instead of pretending to be affectionate on the surface, he played more than anyone else in private.

He was the first boyfriend who was willing to make me open to the circle of friends after work after work. Playing a mobile phone would not cover up me, letting me look at it casually. When your predecessor always uses "I don't love to send a circle of friends", "Haven't you brought you my brother?"

4. I have enough trust in me, will not interfere with too much, nor control.

It's a small thing. I remember that I had just eaten with my friends and my friends, and the men and women had it. The mobile phone was not noticed by the side without electricity. Because the desire to control the predecessor was too strong, after a period of charging, the first reaction was to quickly explain to him the situation.

He said, "Of course, I believe you, it's okay, it's fun to be fun with friends." In any case, he is always willing to believe me unconditionally.

5. Emotional stability will tolerate me. When I am unhappy, I can realize it quickly and to comfort me patiently. If you are contradictory, you are willing to communicate in time without cold violence, and do not escape the responsibility, digest your bad emotions before talking to me, and will not get my temper at me.

Talking with people who are emotional and ups and downs, they will feel very sweet when they are good. Once the quarrel seems to be an enemy, either can't control the emotional saying a lot of unpleasant words, or avoid the problem. Even if he is in conflict with him, he can feel that he cares about my feelings.

6. The dedication should not be too care about gains and losses, and do not hesitate to express love to me.

It is found that the anxiety of girls often comes from the closest person. In the previous relationship, the other party intentionally or unintentionally made various requirements to me, making me more and less confident. And he would praise me from time to time, let me feel his appreciation and love, and the anxiety and appearance of anxiety with the right person will be reduced a lot.

It is found that many girls have not got along with normal men and have not experienced a healthy relationship, they will have low requirements for each other. Repeated tolerance and concession, a little sweetness can resist many damage, and he can't give up in a bad relationship.

According to my opinion, the above are the basic criteria for choosing a spouse, and in the normal relationship, as the other half of the thoughts and behaviors.

It is only because everyone has experienced and seeing too many abnormalities, which leads to these normal behaviors as a "good man" condition, to meet these and even become rare species. In fact, the standard standard has been reduced.

Let's say that the requirements can not be improved, but it must not be reduced again and again. Do not be too tolerant during the process of communication, and do n’t have a fluke that can be decayed into magic. When you feel that you are committed or touched your own bottom line, you must express it boldly or stay away quickly, and draw the boundaries at the fastest speed.

Those relationships that make you suffer from losses and self -doubt are absolutely not healthy relationships. Disposal in unhealthy relationships will only consume yourself, and you will have the opportunity to harvest better feelings when you leave early.

A good intimacy will make people have a stable emotion, and the state will become better. It is really cool to fall in love with normal men. I also wish that sisters can have normal love relationships!

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