A gossip feels: "Do you think you are really unlucky when you marry her?"

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01

The accusations of the road "

On Sunday afternoon, after the get out of class came out of the institution, my friends chatted all the way:

"I'm going! Marrying such a woman is really unlucky home, hey, you said, how could her husband look at her at first?"

"How do I know," I'm a little speechless, "You have said all the way, haven't you said enough?"

"Is this what I want to say? It's not a good thing to look at that woman!"

"Why do you know that people are not a good thing? Besides, what's the matter with you?"

"I shouted in a unevenness!" The friend said, "Besides, do you think she shouted that thing today, is it decent? How terrible!"

"I think you are an overbearing president, and the opening is the taste."

"What taste?"

"I want I think."

"What I want me to think!" My friend was angry instantly, "I am not fighting, and speak for righteousness."

"Then do you know the ins and out of the whole thing? Do you know why she uses this way? Do you know what her husband thinks?"

"I ..." Friends said.

Alas, I sighed silently and pulled out a paper towel to hand it to my friends.

"What?"

"Wipe your saliva that speaks," I paused, "Also, the halo on your eyes?"

"Ah? Halo? What is that?"

02

Impact of halo effect

"This is a typical psychological effect in psychology -halo effect, also called prejudice effect." I explained patiently.

That is to say, in interpersonal communication, a certain characteristic of a person's body covers other characteristics, causing obstacles to interpersonal cognition of others.

For example, when we usually see those who dye yellow hair, say swear words, and tattoos, we feel that he must not be a good person;

For another example, when we like a person, even if he puts a fart in the public, he will feel that he is cute.

This is a typical subjective psychological speculation with a comprehensive and comprehensive, and it is also the most common cognitive barrier in daily life.

"Just take the woman you said today," I continued. "You only follow her, shouting, bullshit, and lost face. Things, I think she must not be a good thing. "

"But actually? Have you ever met her? Have you been in contact with her? Do you know her?"

"I ..." My friend's face began to flush.

"In fact, you don't know anything, and you don't know anything. Just with what you see and heard at the time, you start to discuss and deny others."

"Okay, even if I am partial, I have a point with a point, saying wrong," my friend shouted, "Then we talk about it, she is not doing it right? How can I do this in the big court ..."

"Shameless eyes?" I took it, "Then you feel shameful as a bystander, do you not think of the parties?"

"Since you know that you are shameful, you shouldn't do this?"

"Then do you know why people do this? Do you know why there are so many grievances? Then do you know why there are so many contradictions?"

"This ..." The friend couldn't speak.

"Unknown others are suffering, don't persuade others to be good. Why do you forget what you taught from a young book?"

03

Self -righteousness

In fact, when they quarreled just now, I listened carefully.

"I ask you," I looked at my friend's eyes. "If your husband does not do a little housework at home, what will you do?" What would you do? "

"Then I must have to kill him! I'm not his nanny!"

"Yeah, that family doesn't want to be a nanny!" I said, "When people cry, don't you say it? At home, she was doing everything at home. Which woman can endure this? "

"Hey, do she say this?" The friend was uncertain, "Why didn't I hear it?"

"You just patronize and yell at others, and then go up and go up. Where did he hear what others said?"

"But I'm a poor woman," my friend quarreled. "In front of everyone, I was so tossing by my wife, really."

"So, do you take your momentary resonance as the same feeling for her husband?"

"Everyone thinks so!" The friend said hard.

"Everyone doesn't think so," I said coldly, "because I resonated with myself as the same feeling with others, it is the biggest lie.

There will never be two exactly the same leaves in this world. "

My friend was completely silent.

"Okay, let's not say this." I hurriedly eased.

04

The cruelty of Green Forest

In fact, there are many things like this in life.

As long as you stop, take a closer look and listen to it, your eyes can be "upset, supporting weakness and strengthening".

But ah, can you guarantee that you are right every time you "fighting the righteousness"?

Can you guarantee that all you know is the whole thing?

Can you guarantee that your sword is not the innocent person?

When you think that the road is uneven, you will eventually become a dragon knife to cut into the innocent. At that time, what do you use to scrub the blood on your hand?Unknown full picture, no accusations; unknown he is suffering, and he does not persuade others.

Those full of justice, don't use your prejudice to see the unevenness and self -righteous knife, to help torture an innocent person full of blood.

After all, you and I are not a real "green forest and good man".

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