The soul of the inside subconscious tells you: Behind the schoolbag and excellent is extremely inferior

I encountered such a thing these two days:

Chatting with a friend around him. The friend himself is a study type. He has a undergraduate certificate graduated from a regular university. He also obtained several vocational skills certificates in his spare time. During the chat, he told me that he wanted to take the adult college entrance examination. He asked me which major was better. He didn't know how to choose.

I asked him why you took the exam, you have a certificate. He said he felt that he was inferior. If he could learn more, it seemed to have more choices, so he felt that he was excellent, valuable

Then the question is:

To read an adult college entrance examination to obtain an academic degree or obtain a skill certificate, can you improve your inferiority?

He also has a bachelor's degree and has some qualifications. In fact, it seems that it is quite good. Why do he still feel that he is not confident enough?

A person with a bachelor's degree, who wants to continue to have more education or degree, can he feel more confident?

已经 We imagine a big tree that is already hollow. We give it more nutrition and give it more sufficient sunshine. Can it grow well? It cannot be absorbed!

空 Or a person with an inner hollow, wearing a hat, and then adding a beautiful hat, can the inner empty hole be solved?

Wearing so many hats, there are a lot of hats, but can this hat be displayed?

He hopes to obtain more academic qualifications by constantly, thinking that this can make him more confident. But is this really the case?

So it seems that the root of the problem is why there is no confidence? He already has a bachelor's degree and several qualifications. Why do he still feel that he is inferior? If you are not an inferiority, how can he make good use of his resources?

In our lives, we can see a lot of people with low education, but they have created extraordinary achievements. I will also see some students from our elementary school primary school in junior high school students who are not studying, but when they grow up, they have a career.

So is self -confidence, a sense of accomplishment and academic qualifications inevitable? Or is it equivalent to self -confidence in high education, multi -education, and multiple certificates?

Obviously not.

So what is the essence of the problem?

A confident person, he will play the most existing resources, because he believes that he can. It is this belief that he can use everything that can be available for use, or to obtain some certificates, use all his energy to mobilize his enthusiasm, and develop to him. At this time, you can obtain a degree or technical certificate is targeted and meaningful.

So what is the root cause of this friend? It is self -confidence.

First establish self -confidence, and then take the degree of qualifications. Or two can be performed at the same time.

How to rebuild self -confidence?

Then go back carefully: when did you start to inferiority? I feel inferior after experiencing what incident. Why is it inferior? Back to the incident of his initial inferiority to heal, the inner child in his heart will really grow.

Author: psychological counselor Chen Yanni Chen Yanni: Female, 1980, Nanjing, Jiangsu Province, a bachelor's degree, Zeng Yan Psychological Studio practice psychological counselor, international registered psychological counselor, Trina Hospital for 20 years, and engaged in psychological work for 3 years; Consultation genre: cognitive psychology, sand table, intention dialogue

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