Girls' self -proclaimed "academic self -self" cited group ridicule: How important is living to self -worth?

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What is "academic self -self"?

As an online buzzword, the encyclopedia explains this way:

Simply put, people who obtain academic resources of others with beauty or means.

Not long ago, a screenshot was spread on the Internet.

In the screenshot, the girl who posted the article lamented: "When the academic self -self is really too cool."

It can be known from the mailbox in the green dialog box that she should be a student of Peking University.

The girl said that her boyfriend helped himself analyze the data and modified the papers for half a year, and the paper was published in the "SCI District".

The so -called "SCI area" usually refers to the top journals in various fields. The papers published in the journal are more weight -cap, and they are more convincing in the academic community. Because of the high academic level of the journal in the first district, it is also difficult to publish. It can be said that the successful publication represents a certain level and ability.

She was very happy and said: "I wish you all an academic genius as soon as possible, and I become an academic self -confidence."

And attached labels such as "Graduate Daily", "Boyfriend", and "Academic Die".

For a while, the post of girls made many people feel uncomfortable. Do you understand what is very proud of being a "academic self -self"? This screenshot also caused a lot of response on the Internet.

Later, the girl discovered that public opinion was a little harsh, so she sent a message to the first netizen who questioned her, explaining the content of the screenshot, but the joke between her and her boyfriend, but was excessively interpreted and fermented by the netizen.

She also said that both experiments and papers were done by individuals and had issued some evidence.

In her own clarification post, she declared:

"The mice were raised by themselves, the experiments were done by myself, the article was written by myself, the whole process of the mentor participated, it was not shameful to the school, it is not necessary to be true."

This clarification has made things go to another discussion point. Netizens no longer pay attention to whether her academic level is true, but cannot agree with her.

Now that the thesis is done by myself, why do I still have to wear the name of "academic self -self" and make everyone mistakenly think that the results of this paper are given by others?

The comment in the comments:

In essence, she is still proud of "being loved by men", rather than proud of self -improvement.

She regards being loved as the highest self -worth, and by declare the other party's favor to the outside world to gain happiness.

Her mentality is still the "coquettish wife" mentality.

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From "my husband is a civil servant", to the "mangosteen literature" of how to eat mangosteen through her husband, as well as Meng Qiqi and Xu Xu entering the moon, "Jiao Wife Literature" is common.

Why do people sneer at the literary literature of Jiao?

Probably in the eyes of these people, how does the other half of their half and how to love themselves;

But in the view of the bystanders, the other half of the other half that was worked hard to shape as an overbearing president was not as good as they wanted to show.

It is the sense of splitting caused by the different feelings of this bystander and narrator, so that such words will always cause heated discussion.

However, even so, Jiao Wife Literature is still steady, you sing me, which makes us have to pay attention to the facts behind the numbness and funny:

We will find that there are so many women in this world who need to compose such "love lies" to restrain their own value.

Just like the girl who is willing to become a "academic self -self", she obviously has professional strength to reflect her value, but she does not hesitate to sacrifice this value to emphasize the value of "being loved".

Think of a paragraph in "Second Sex":

"Everything prompts her to devote her to a man's embrace in her dream so that she can be carried to a glorious kingdom of heaven. She understands that to gain happiness, she must be loved. For love, she must wait for love.

Women are sleeping beauty, donkey skin princess, Cinderella, Princess Bai Xue, the person who accepts and endure. In the ballad, in the story, you can see the young men who go through hard and danger to find a woman; he swords on a dragon and fights with the giant; she is locked in a tower, palace, garden, cave, locked on a rock, and was imprisoned. Just asleep; she is waiting.

One day, my prince will come ... "

Whether it is Snow White, Sleeping Beauty or Cinderella, they eventually wait for the prince and then live a happy life together.

In such a narrative system, it looks like all the beautiful qualities in women are in order to get the opportunity to be loved;

For a girl, her greatest value is reflected in "being loved."

It is precisely because of this value standard that the girls' behavior can not escape the nature of the "coquettish wife" even if they are ever -changing and endless.

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Maybe we can treat such "Jiao Wife Literature" as some talks after meals, but we must also recognize:

As a woman, what is being tied up, and how should we unbind it?

In the American drama "Western World", a large number of simulation robots have been manufactured for human pastime.

They don't have their own consciousness, what they will do if others let them do.

Until one day, the heroine of the same robot, Dlores, awakened the self -awareness of the self -consciousness, she said:

I have been controlled by others in my life, and some people have been saying "you must" to me, and now, I think I have discovered my voice. What it said is "I can". The difference between "must" and "can" is to choose from.

We can choose to be loved by someone, not to be loved.

We can choose to be some kind of person, not to be a kind of person, and we can pursue a life that suits us.

As a person with independent thinking ability, we can choose any life we ​​want, not a single standard requirement;

As an independent individual, our own value does not need to be attached to anyone, but in self -realization.

Have a sense of self -worth, know who you are, what you can do, and what you can do.

Understand that being loved does not reflect my value, we have too many ways to prove ourselves and realize ourselves.

Only in this way can we take the initiative to get happiness instead of being passively given to happiness.

As Borhes says, any fate, no matter how long and complicated, is actually only reflected in one moment:

The moment people realize who they are.

mutual encouragement.

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