When parent -child communication, parents want to achieve good results, may wish to add some body language

Take Erbao to the mall to buy clothes. There is a KFC in the mall, and there is a small playground in it. Children can play slide and build blocks.

I asked Erbao to play first, and I went to buy something.

After I bought it, I went to see Erbao and found that she was sitting alone in the corner of the slide, not very happy.

I asked her what happened. She said that the building blocks were on the slide by a few children. She wanted to play in the building block pool, but they didn't listen.

I didn't know how to deal with the confusion of Erbao for a while, so I hugged her first, patted her back gently, and quickly thought about the solution.

About a few minutes, neither of us said. Later, Erbao said that she didn't want to play, so I took her away from the slide and found a place to sit down.

Erbao ate something and drank some drinks, and his mood was much better.

I didn't wait for me to comfort the two treasures, she comforted me, and said it was okay. Those children may be together. Let them play, she won't play.

Originally, I thought that I had to spend a lot of effort to comfort her in order to make her happy. Unexpectedly, I just hugged her and comforted her.

This reminds me of the psychologist Li Qunfeng in "Children's Communication Psychology" that in parent -child communication, parents must not only pay attention to language skills, but also give full play to the role of physical language, because children can from their parents’s parents’s’s’s’s’s’s’s. In action, understand whether his parents really care about him.

In Teacher Li Qunfeng's view, sometimes using physical language to communicate with children can achieve better effects than language communication.

Studies have shown that when people communicate, about 90%of the messages are conveyed by body language.

Body language can support or deny the language and behavior of others, but also replace audio language, exert an independent expression function, but also convey the emotion and attitude that is difficult to express in sound language.

When parent -child communication, parents want to achieve good results, and may wish to add some body language.

In this regard, Mr. Li Qunfeng gave three suggestions:

1. Tell your child what to do with your eyes

Some people's thoughts can be conveyed through their eyes.

In parent -child communication, if the parents can't achieve the effect when they communicate with their children in language, they may wish to give their children a look and tell the child what he should do with his eyes.

There was a while of my big treasures like to bite a pencil, and she felt fun at first. After I said she had several times, she started to reverse, deliberately against me, bite the pen when writing homework, and bite when watching TV.

For this reason, we often have contradictions.

Say too much, I am annoyed. Later, when I saw Dabao biting a pencil, I simply said nothing, and changed to staring at her with my eyes.

Dabao noticed my gaze, so he let go of his pen and concentrate on writing his homework. After several times, Dabao felt boring, and gradually changed the problem of biting the pen.

However, it should be noted that when you communicate with your children, your eyes should be peaceful, otherwise the cold and oppression will make the child feel uncomfortable, cause the child's dislike, and naturally cannot achieve the effect that parents want.

2. Use facial expressions to preach loudly

The use of facial expressions is also part of body language.

When parents communicate with their children, they can express information such as praise, boredom, and negation of their children through facial expressions. Seeing the expression of the parents' expressions, the child can feel the attention and understanding of his parents, so the communication between parent -child will be much smoother.

Once I chatted with Dabao, Dabao was very good and looked at me from time to time. I asked her what happened, and she said that I frowned and thought I was going to get angry.

I hurriedly explained to her that I had a trouble and did not solve it. At the same time, I also realized that with my children, we must learn to manage my facial expressions.

Sometimes, the facial expression is more powerful than the eyes. When the parents' expressions are dignified and their brows are frowned, the child will perform better and try not to anger the parents.

3. Relax of the body, the child will feel relaxed

When using body language to communicate with children, parents should also pay attention to the correct physical posture.

When parents are anxious, distressed, angry, helpless, they are different from happiness, relaxation, and excitement, and their physical posture is different, which will also affect the child's emotions.

I remember that in the first grade of Erbao, there was a while. When she started writing homework after dinner, Erbao was often anxious, and even cried several times.

I know that the pressure from learning and the burden of homework made her feel unbearable.

I sat beside her and comforted her that the words I didn't know, read it a few times, and knew it; if I didn't write a word, write a few more and remember it.

After speaking, I took out her language documents and turned to the lesson I was about to write, saying that I would read it with her.

Erbao felt my encouragement and comfort, restored some self -confidence, and her mood was much better. She took out her book and began to write carefully.

The above three types of limb language, if the parents use properly, it is very helpful to improve parent -child communication.

Of course, body language and speech exchanges are not opposite. The two complement each other and interact with each other, so that parent -child communication can go smoothly.

Many times, children are more inclined to believe in the body language of their parents. Therefore, parents should maintain the consistency of body language and speech exchanges, so as not to confuse their children.

When communicating with your children, do you communicate more with words or body language? Welcome to leave a message to share.

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