Parents are the best education for their children | Selected selection

Author | Oh, mother

A few days ago, I took my daughter to the Toy City and accidentally saw such a scene.

A young mother held a few Ultraman toys in her hand and reprimanded the husband around her in front of her son:

"I know all day to buy these useless things for my son. There are a lot of money at home. Is there no place for money?"

In the large court, passers -by watched.

I saw my mother's anger, her father bowed his body, expressionless.

Although I do n’t know what the little couple encountered, how much my father made a mistake, but my mother did not pay attention to it, letting me see the sorrow of many families now.

All models about parents in the eyes of children should not be like this.

Perhaps his parents felt that it was nothing to attack each other and accusations in front of him, but in fact, the damage caused by this behavior was improving his life.

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Three splitting platforms, seven points of damage

"Parenting Battle" also has such a pair of parents.

Mom is irritable and has a high requirements for her son. When she saw her son's piano, she couldn't help raising the hyper.

As long as the mother is a little severe, Dad will always stand up for the first time, while saying a word for her son, "criticize" the mother: "Children are not so forced."

Unexpectedly, Dad spoke for a while, causing great dissatisfaction.

In order not to let Dad interfere with his education, the mother even stared at the eyes, "Can you not speak anymore."

This situation is far more than once. The son asked for an excuse to slip out of the room to relax. Dad felt nothing, and accompanied him to watch his mobile phone, saying and laughing.

Soon, the mother who heard the news came to pull her son's penalty station because her son lied to lie to her, and she was so angry.

Faced with the heart of Dad's care, the mother simply changed the spear head in a direction and yelled at Dad:

"Are I'm educating children now?"

The implication is "Dad shuts up, don't intervene in the discipline of my son, where are you cooling and getting cold."

In fact, this pair of parents' practices are all for their sons.

One hopes that the son can maintain a high degree of self -discipline, not to study, and one does not want the son to be so hard.

But they attacked each other, accusing each other's educational "not", and deeply stabbed the child's fragile heart.

In the "disagreement" family atmosphere, the child feels panic, fear, and splitting.

Obviously his parents dismantled each other, and the starting point was him.

In the end, it was him who suffered 10,000 points.

If you always feel that you can do it right, slander the other half in front of the child and dismantle each other's platform without polite.

This is a great hidden danger for the growth of the child to bury a thunder that will explode at any time.

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Parents' attitude towards the other half

Determine your child's future life direction

One netizen asked on Weibo:

After graduating for many years, I would rather choose to work far away from home. I don't want to go home to face my parents during the New Year. Am I filial?

From his sharing, it was found that he also had a pair of parents who liked to dismantle each other and said the other party.

As a child, as long as his father took him out to play home late, his mother would "scold" his father, and his father was playing with him.

I will even complain that my father makes less money. There is no ability to find a good job that can support the whole family like a neighbor.

Although Dad is often dying in front of my mother, in private, Dad will keep reminding him:

"Don't listen to your mother, you haven't read any books, and command to command like a commander all day.

I do n’t care about her, do n’t let her know anything about what you have, just tell Dad. "

For a while, he did not stand his mother's approach. He tried to unite the front with his father and stood on the opposite side of his mother.

But a little clear, he felt that his father really said as unreliable as his mother, and he couldn't even solve a little thing.

Who should I believe? Who should I choose?

This "two -choice one" problem has become a trouble of growing up all the way.

I really want to respect their parents and understand their situation, but when I think of their negative evaluations of each other, I don't consciously start a question mark in my heart, and it becomes difficult to trust any party.

So that after leaving home and entering the workplace, he always had doubts about his colleagues and friends around him. He was not sure if they were sincere in themselves, and could not fully open themselves with others.

It is said that parents' attitudes towards the other half are hiding their children's future life.

The disrespect of the other half from any party will inevitably destroy the prestige of their parents in their children's hearts.

When the child loses his respect and admiration of his parents, his recognition of intimacy and rules will disappear a little bit.

If you want to maintain the sense of authority of the other half, the key is TA pocket, the key is these three things:

1. Unexpectedly, the child's face is degraded to the other half

Many times, the reason why parents like to reveal the shortcomings of the other half in front of their children, or forcibly pull their children to stand in a team, but want to attack the other party to see the other party's unbearable opportunities.

But doing so is undoubtedly forcing children to become a victim of family war, and they have to lose money.

The adult's affairs must always learn to solve the adult's way.

On the way to educate children to grow up, the other half is the only comrade and peers.

Leave some face to the other half.

There are more respect and decent language in language, even if you seem to "lose", all the children will win in the end. 2. Do not shirk the problem to the other half

No matter what happens, as long as the bottom line is not touched, the parents should be together and find a way to face the solution together.

Children have difficulty learning. Everyone sit down and calm down to see what to help children. When the family is in crisis, everyone needs to twist into a rope and work hard to carry it.

Blind the pot out and blame the problem on the other half. Instead of solving the problem, it will also bring heavy pressure to the child.

Therefore, knowing how to set up the place, consider the standpoint of the other party, and work together to face the general manner encountered by the family. This is the way of doing things of high -quality parents.

3. To say more and praise the other half

A female writer shared in the book:

Since I learned to appreciate her husband and express the affirmation and recognition of her husband, not only is the marriage full of passion, but also a new look. Even the children have more and more understand the husband and depend on their dad as the "hero".

In her opinion, even if there is some "sweet words" that sound numb, she is not embarrassed to say.

But if you know how to express love, if you are willing to praise the other half, the child will get used to it slowly, and one day, they will treat their other half like this.

Relaxing your mind and actively discovering the advantages of the other party. When the husband and wife injected a sweet lubricant, the benefit will be a whole home.

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As the so -called, what is the relationship between parents and what kind of life is the child.

The best education for children is the bottom of the parents.

Only my father loves the child's mother, the mother appreciates and admires the child's father, does not dismantle each other or blame each other, and the child feels the warmth and love between intimate relationships.

Every parent should use the good behavior of treating the other half to establish a benchmark for children's growth.

Children who grew up in love, one day, will definitely gain the special love given by the world.

Author | Oh, mother, willing to use their own hearts and pen to open the children's spiritual world.

Editor in charge | Du Runnan

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