Get up at 5 o'clock, study for 8 hours ... I insist on self -discipline for a month, I am more anxious

There is a big wonders in contemporary society. There are always people who punch themselves online, and a group of people watch.

You need to check in, learn to check in, you need to check in without online shopping, and you need to check in for a month to control consumption.

On the days when you can't go out for travel, he has made himself a tourist attraction, and is called: self -discipline.

And under these punch -in content, there are always many self -confident comments, while reflecting on how they are so lazy, and envy how others do so self -discipline.

It seems that it is not self -disciplined, and it has become a kind of original sin.

But the word "self -discipline" itself is the biggest lie in this era.

Self -discipline: From OKR to PUA

As long as one person wants to make some self -improvement, "self -discipline" is often the first thing to think of, and a person who tries to discipline often starts like this.

First of all, TA will think of a very vague goal, such as weight loss, learning, and even just "becoming a better self."

Then TA will download some self -discipline apps based on the "self -discipline strategy" of Xiaohongshu, Weibo or B station, and buy some yoga mats, handbooks, pens and laptops, etc., to set a detailed plan for yourself Sports for half an hour, learn to check in, read a book 30 minutes, go to bed at 11 o'clock, and intend to check in daily.

After a few days of persistence, TA will find that he cannot complete his own plan like a robot, and then starts to entangle "why only I can't do it."

The first thing I want to say is that it is normal if you have no way to accomplish your own self -discipline.

Because in the company, this kind of "self -discipline" is called OKR. Only when you do n’t have to deduct money, it is worthwhile to fight hard.

The "self -discipline" in the market is basically associated with the "best self" and "the envy of everyone".

The first one that "self -discipline" is equivalent to "good" and the same as success. It is not Xiaohongshu, but your mother.

When you go to school, parents use "children's children" to step on you. Must -use words are how conscious people. You never need to urge your homework.

A primary school summer vacation plan found online

For a long time, "self -discipline" is often a successful person's experience. One of the special books.

For example, the legendary "Wang Jianlin schedule" gets up at 4 in the morning. After morning exercises and breakfast, take 5 hours of planes to Haikou. After participating in a series of work, they will fly back to Beijing and continue to deal with work after 7 pm.

On this day, his working time was over 12 hours.

"Wang Jianlin is so self -disciplined, how can you be embarrassed?"

But I don't know when it starts, "self -discipline" has become the wealth password for some people.

Those self -discipline marketing

Those self -disciplines have long been marked in the secret price.

In the track of self -discipline, there is no shortage of lecturers successfully.

There are also books, selling lessons, and selling communities.

There are even protein powder, mask, eye cream and handbook.

The logic of "self -discipline marketing" is very simple and rude. Knowing self -discipline = success, buying them = self -discipline, so buy things = success.

As the saying goes, there are many stationery stationery. In terms of self -discipline, it is not self -disciplined and successful, but you place an order, and they succeed.

Of course, criticizing "self -discipline marketing" is not to deny the value of effort.

It is of course important to work hard, but sometimes it is not a key factor in success.

UP Master@嘻 嘻 嘻, one of which is mentioned:

"(Some people are in) a very good manufacturer get a high position, (but (but) In fact, this high is promoted by the entire industry or the entire macroeconomic economy, and it is not created by personal efforts."

The current situation creates heroes, and the time and place are beneficial to others.

Now the self -discipline of "selling" on the market often exaggerates the value of hard work, giving ordinary people a unreal hope, and attributed all failures to not hard work and self -discipline.

Picture intercepting from station B@嘻 嘻 图片

But why is self -disciplined marketing that can be sold?

In essence, we are too anxious and too afraid of failure.

Non -self -discipline = failure?

In the past two years, you can often see elementary school students/middle school students/college students. Because of some small things to do extreme behavior, some people always say that the children's psychological tolerance is too poor.

But when the whole society becomes more utilitarian, people's "success" standards are getting higher and higher, and it is really difficult for children to exercise a strong heart.

The advantage of the Internet is that it can connect everyone's life together, but the disadvantage is that it has too close the lives of everyone.

In the past, it was difficult for people to imagine "success" beyond their cognition, and references were limited to what they had seen or heard.

But now, the "successful standards" have become "the standard of successful people". They are the annual salary of one million. How many flat school district houses are. It is not better to earn XX before the age of 28 and it is better to return to my hometown.

The Internet shows people with different regions, different family backgrounds, and different living conditions, but it is very one -sided, so it seems that everyone seems to be the same age, but in fact, the difference between people and people may be better than people and pigs and pig’s. The difference is still big. There is no anxiety without comparison. At present, many young people are worried. In fact, they see that too many peers are better than themselves, and they cannot be as good as them anyway. They also have to participate in social competition with them, so they begin to anxious.

But in fact, we are often competing with people who are similar to ourselves. The competition between those excellent peers participating, and an ordinary person who is "not self -disciplined" is temporarily qualified to participate.

Therefore, ordinary people pursue the "self -discipline" of marketing, and they will only be rolled to ordinary people at the same level, and it is difficult to catch up with those outstanding peers.

Therefore, the anxiety of young people at the moment is not because they are not self -disciplined and do not work hard, but they find the wrong reference.

Don't worry about not self -rhythm

Whether you work hard, whether you succeed, all the references should be yourself, or even whether you want to decide yourself, and you should belong to ourselves.

I once saw a Weibo netizen saying: struggle is important, and self -reconciliation is also important.

In Douban's "Anti -Social Clock" group, more than 70,000 people are sharing their "counter -clock" life.

Someone resigned from a large factory at the age of 30 and went to the farm to do blueberry picking workers;

Some people graduate at 29 years old, and some people only have to go to study at the age of 29.

At the age of 29, someone was only under the guidance of a child in the community, and learned to ride a bicycle.

The so -called "social clock" is what age, but everyone's social clock will not be exactly the same, and the "success" that everyone can get will not be exactly the same.

Just as the founders of the "Injustation Clock" group wrote in the group profile:

"Some people graduated at the age of 22, but after waiting for 5 years to find a stable job. Some people died at the age of 50, but died at the age of 50; someone became CEO until the age of 50 and then lived to 90 years old.

Some people around you seem to walk in front of you, and some people seem to walk behind you, but in fact everyone has their own enthusiasm in their time zone.

Don't be jealous or envy, life is waiting for the right action time. So, relax. You are not behind, you are not ahead. In the time zone that is arranged for you, everything is on time. "

Reference materials:

Douban against the Social Clock Group

"Self -discipline" is the best hallucination of this era

Creation team in this article

Author | Chongzheng

Planning | Chong Shong

Edit | Chong Shirt

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