Live in the moment: 35 perceptions on the 35 -year -old road

When you come to the moment, have you lived in the moment?

Translator | Boxi

Source ｜ God Translation Bureau

Cover Source ｜ Vision China

Editor's note: Now the world is chaotic, so we need to have a clear mind, otherwise we will be confused by various chaos. How to have a clear mind? Don't follow the flow, people are also cloudy, look at the perception of wise men, not the extreme remarks that provoke people's hearts and deceive clicks. For example, the writer's birthday perception once a year is worth watching, and the article comes from compilation.

Today, I am 35 years old. This feeling is very strange for me, because I still remember that on the day of my 25th birthday, I wrote a version of this article, and it was shortly before my first book was published. But the realm of life lies in this, just like Hemingway's famous quotes. As you grow older, slowly, then suddenly, it will feel like a short period of time for a long time. Now that I have passed the year, I entered the second half of my life, and I started to reflect on what I learned.

In the past decade, I have written more than ten books. I'm married. I have two children. I bought a house. Then I bought the farm again. Then went to a 140 -year -old building to open a bookstore. I travel around the world. I have a group book. I made a lot of mistakes (I said that last year). I have seen something bad. I also learned something, although it is not enough.

As always, this is what I want to discuss in this article that I want to write once a year -I was in the past year ... and the rules, experience lessons, insights, and garlic of the past 35 years. You may agree with some of the views, but you may also feel that some views are difficult to understand or completely wrong (but this is a personal article).

Then ... please be right.

1. Don't compare with others. You will never know who is taking steroids. You never know who debt. You never know who is a liar.

2. When I was running in Austin, I saw a logo beside the runway, which was established by Thomas Henderson. It reads, "It is better to make it better when you leave this place than you just arrived." For me, regardless of the size (but most of it is a trivial matter), this is the meaning of life.

3. There are many things that surprised me repeatedly, that is, a person, even if it is very famous, very rich, very powerful, who hear the latest TV image, the latest achievements, the latest project compliments, and the latest projects. Always use it. The meaning here is not to say that "celebrities are also people", but if the people of that class are still useful to friends/acquaintances, what do you think this means for your child or colleague/employee or to you? What does it mean for your brothers and sisters and friends?

4. You don't have to explain yourself. A clerk at Sandra Day O'Connor (former US Justice) has said that she admires this big Justice, that is, she never said before refusing "sorry "". If she can't or want to do something, she will say "no" directly. You can also use this approach to your own boundary settings, interests and choices. Just need to say no. You can explain to relatives that they have to stay in the hotel instead of staying in your house. You can feel how comfortable. You don't have to prove yourself, you don't have to explain yourself, and you don't need to apologize.

5. You don't have to do everything. You don't need to do anything. All pressure exists only in your mind. They are all compiled by you.

6. At the end of dying, you will pay for any more in order to be able to surpass a flat evening. Send your child to school again. Eat another mouthful of peaches. Stay another hour on the bench in the park. However, you didn't care before, so hurriedly passed. Or just forget it. Or complain about such a life, because the sky is hot, or the road is blocked, or because of a sudden population on the mobile phone. Or busy planning something special in the future, as if that will make you happy. When your life comes to an end, you don't want to do these more ordinary things ... but you can't waste these opportunities at present.

7. The older you are, the more difficult it is to see how bad you felt normal in the past, or how crazy you are. Once you have a child, you will notice this trend, and you will see people proudly say to you that they have done extremely dangerous or cruel things to their children in the past. "We used to make our children ..." You can see some analogies used when you treat Covid (for example, so many people died in heart disease or car accident every day, so COVID death points are completely reasonable and reasonable To. It is important to oppose this -don't let you have a better, safer, and different current/future.

8. Speaking of a process that I have to experience after getting older, I absolutely hate this statement, that is, "If you are young but not radical, then you are an attentive person; if you are old but not conservative, then then you are not conservative, then You are a brainless person. "What does this mean? Aside from the suspicious political factors, it means that you should not listen to your heart when you are old. This is just the opposite you want. Your goal should be more friendly, compassionate, and better. 9. Drink plenty of water. No matter how much water is drinking, it is unlikely that you can drink your head, and you can basically be sure that you have not drunk too much. Believe me, you will feel much better to drink plenty of water.

10. The same is true for walking. Walking can almost improve everything.

11. "What makes Sami run?" (What Makes Sammy Run) is one of my favorite novels. After using the entire novel's space, he hoped that the protagonist would "be punished", the narrator finally realized that his real punishment for Sami was that he must be Sami. Even if he was wearing a variety of coats, his life had to live in that head. This was the fairness he wanted to fall on him. I found that in my life, many people trying to hurt me or hit me are the case. The retribution does not appear in the form of some emergencies, but as Schulberg says, retribution is a delicate and sinister daily life.

12. This strong resistance to the "elite" is really stupid, stupid to ridiculous ... and I say as a proud university drop student. Everyone and things I admire are elite. Stephen Curry's shot. Robert Caro's writing method. The ability of the seal assault team. The idea that we should praise ordinary people and their general views on things, in fact, will often make everything worse than the average level in the end.

13. Extend the time line. The Painted Porch was postponed for one year because of COVID). It told me that things needed often longer than you thought. This is Hou Shida's law. Even if you have realized the existence of this law, the result will still surprise you.

14. I started to believe that there was a dark energy inside the species of human beings -a combination of fear, evil, ignorance, cruelty, and black. This dark energy has always been accompanied by us. When they burned the witch, it was there. When they put dogs to attack those protesters, this dark energy is there. When they shouted or let women return to the kitchen at different sexual orientations, it was there. You can block this energy, but you can never defeat it -this dark energy is like water, it will accumulate, and then find new exports. On every political and social issue, the problem is always whether you are corroded by this dark energy or succumbed to this dark energy.

15. If you can't give up this transaction, the transaction may not be established at the beginning.

16. Seneca said: "I am happy to pay taxes on life." It was not just the government. When you meet a nasty person, you are paying for taxes. Delay is the tax you go to travel. Negative comments and hatred are the taxes you want to pay for youTube channel. If you become a celebrity, they will make up rumors about you. If you do charity, others will question your intention or motivation. If you have children, you will insomnia. Every matter of life must be paid. You can complain. Or you can also pay taxes on life as Seneca said, and then continue to move forward.

17. My children often fight in the car, usually about an hour. It is strange that sometimes I was sleeping when I was driving. I would look down at the speedometer, while thinking, why should I drive so fast? I have nowhere to go ... Actually, the whole significance of driving lies in waiting ... but why do I always want to hurry?

18. Do your own work and become good parents, good partners or good people -if you leave the most impressive impression on this? If you don't try to do more things or break a new record, but try to become an elite and decent person, what will happen?

19. Two years ago, I decided to stop all business advertisements. I decided to spend money on content creation -video, articles or something. The reason why I do this is because I realize that the money I spent on advertising basically has no positive impact on the world (if so), but articles and videos can be at least showing others (no matter how do you say that these are free ), Even if the return on investment is not as good as advertising. In the long run, these contents will always exist, and the influence will be greater and more meaningful. Considering the scale of my business, this decision is not large, but if you are willing to spend more time and maximize the positive and external effects of what you do, rather than maximize the short -term profit, I think you will be you will Happily ... will eventually do better.

20. There is a painting on my table, which was given to me by Hugh McLeod. It reads: "I am like a bastard, treating things for granted."

21. An important reminder to me in the past few years: If there is no good communication, even if there are good leadership and right ideas, it will fail. Essence There is not enough ideas for the right, and you have to learn how to sell good ideas. 22. Despair and cynical will only worsen the problem. Hope, goodwill, believe in yourself? These traits can promote changes -others claim that it is impossible.

23. Modern life is very difficult. Think about it, from science and technology to unwritten rules in high society, now everyone must know what to do. Think about it to be drowned by various information from the moment you wake up. Think about the acuity of emotional intelligence needs to control the needs of daily life. Once you understand this, you will find that many people do not have this ability. This should help you adjust your mentality and become more patient. They could not cope with modern life at all. This is not an excuse, it is true.

24. When Seneca said that poverty does not have too little, but for too much desire, he is actually not the poor, but the rich. This reminds me of something I started to understand: wealth does not need to consider a lot of money. Sadly, this means that many rich people are actually poor.

25. Bruce Springer (Bruce Springs) has a lot of lyrics that are well written, but what I miss most is this (Editor's Note: lyrics in Tuson Train):

We used to fight for no reason (We Fough Hard Over Nothing)

There is no one left (we fough ’til nothing remainEd)

I once brought that for a long time (I ’ve Carried that Nothing for a long time)

26. The most important point of my books that I learned is that I understand that everything will encounter uncertain chaotic state at the beginning, and confusion can make you desperate for success. When I wrote a book, I experienced a low valley, and then I found a note that I wrote down, which wrote, "Remember notes, this book will be written as". Every project will be such a process. After this process, you can reach the end ... if you trust it. The more you go through, the more you trust this process, because you understand.

27. We often think that it will be troubled by a millionaire or a billionaire, and the successful person will be plagued by it. But in fact, it has the greatest damage to those promising people/teams and projects in the early stages.

28. When I was reading a book recently, I could feel that I would have such an idea, that is, I always wanted to blame the problem on the characters. Later, I reflected it. The reason why I did this is because if this is their fault, then I don't have to care. I don't need to do anything or change any belief. I think this impulse can explain many situations in the world today. For this reason, I think about it almost every day. You must fight with this idea in your mind and fight with the reason for finding unwillingness -because this is the devil's drama.

29. If you can afford it, you will give things to others; if you can't afford it, then automate the matter. Time is our most valuable resource.

30. The best coaches and CEOs are not those who have succeeded in the court or board. Judging the real great men is to see their coach trees -people who work for them, the people they taught, what they inspired by later did.

31. Most people would rather be noisy to reality and do not want to do something for reality.

32. Those who are angry because of my remarks, when I receive their emails and comments, I sometimes remind them that I do n’t rely on what others want to hear to build the audience. I rely on expressing myself by expressing myself. Attracting attention. Also, if you are concerned about self -remarks because you are worried that you will pay the price, then you are actually not a success.

33. Peter Tel is the famous "reverse thinking". He once told me that this road to reverse thinkers is actually not easy to go. You can't just subvert others' thoughts and practices. The key is to have your own thinking. If you find that you always oppose everyone and everything, this may indicate that you do not think too much, but just superficially oppose it.

34. All others have their own behavior mode. There is a self. It will follow the stream. They are the products they experience and they encounter. But aren't you like this -Is this true?

35. Talk about the last thinking. The end of my favorite Seneca is my annual tradition. One year old, not to say that I had been dead for another year, but that I died for another year now. Why do you say that? Because Seneca is right, the passing time is equivalent to death. So you ask yourself every year, every month, every day, and every minute: Did you live in the moment when you come?

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