Is "talking about money" between couples really hurts emotion?

"Before getting married, should I take out the money for him/her?"

"When I was in love, I always felt that he was spending money, what should I do?"

"How can couples spend money reasonable and indifferent?"

Similar questions can be heard in real life or on the question and answer platform.

In love, in addition to personality, habits, hobbies, "money" is indeed a topic that we can avoid talking subconsciously, but we can't get around.

Should couples talk about money?

If the gold money view is different, is it destined to come to the end?

"When we love each other, we start to" care about money "for money"

In Yu Hao's cognition, it is an indispensable thing to fall in love and love. It is important that two people can be happy. There is no need to care about the details of dozens of dollars.

Xiaoguo and Yu Hao knew in the university classroom. Although Yu Hao was three years older than Xiaoguo, Xiaoguo looked very mature. She could take care of her life well, and she also had a clearer plan for future development.

Because of their personality, the two also had a straight temper and soon came together. In the early days of love, the two had a good relationship and rarely contradicted. Yu Hao felt that he was too lucky to meet someone who fits such in the right time.

The gap between age has not been opened, but the dominance of money has triggered their contradictions in love.

Considering that Xiaoguo was still in college, Yu Hao believed that he had successfully studied and had part -time jobs outside, and he should bear more costs. "Besides, I think it is a very romantic thing in the intimate relationship."

Therefore, whether it is travel or date, Yu Hao actively pays almost all expenses.

What he did not expect was that after half a year, Xiaoguo took the work of writing a manuscript at the school. After receiving the manuscript fee, he transferred the money to Yu Hao, saying that he did not want to owe others. Yu Hao was very puzzled and couldn't understand the behavior of his girlfriend. Why do you do that?

Xiaoguo told him that he had always been cautious in money, but Yu Hao was relatively big and big, and Yu Hao's economic effort was more economically disturbed and guilty when he brought her happiness.

Although this matter has passed, the doubt is planted in Yu Hao's heart. "Do you want to calculate the account clearly, don't you want to go on with me?"

In this matter, one does not want to "see outside", one does not want to "depend on", and the last two chose to avoid talking. Essence

The contradictions accumulated little by little. After many loves between Xiaoguo and Yu Hao, they came to the end after many times.

Yu Hao later understood slowly, "In the beginning, we were unwilling to talk about money, pretending to be very favorite, and afraid of hurting feelings. However, the two people spent together, and the money to spend is not worth it. Two people decide together. "

"We who are unsuitable for money, we want to talk better"

Xiaohui and her boyfriend met anonymous social software.

The two talked very well, but after a few times, Xiaohui found that he and his boyfriend's family economic conditions were very different. The restaurant that the boyfriend usually loved to go far exceeded his consumption level.

This incident made Xiaohui very distressed and insisted that the AA system would bring a great burden on herself, but she didn't want to make this relationship equal. After listening to her troubles, the roommate advised Xiaohui to talk about this with her boyfriend seriously. Xiaohui quickly refuted: "I like him, but not the family behind him."

"But isn't he also the same as his family and his environment?" A word of friends awakened Xiaohui. She decided to make each other aware of the bias of value understanding to find a solution.

After Xiao Hui Kaicheng said, both of them began to actively discuss the topic and made detailed plans for things related to money.

"Our current idea is that at this stage, first of all, I have to take care of myself and prevent him from worrying. He pays more on dating, tourism and other expenses. I pay more in small expenses in daily life."

Although the two will still have disputes because of money, they all know that this dispute is meaningful, and the consensus brought by the quarrel is conducive to the development of relations.

"If you don't sit down early to face this problem, I don't know that our thoughts have so many differences." Xiao Huichang exhaled, "But because it is because of our money, so it is even more talked about to talk about this problem. It is necessary to have the possibility of "seeking common deposit difference". "

Sanmao has a sentence: "If love does not fall into the real life of dressed, eating, sleeping, and counting money, it will not last long."

Sometimes, we will subconsciously avoid mentioning the more sensitive words of "money", but in fact, the money itself is not wrong. The key is how to use it.

There is no distinction between money's attitude, but there is a difference between you and me.

Talking between couples is actually clear whether the two have the same concept or understanding of money. If some problems can be solved at the couple stage, it may reduce some unnecessary trouble.

Only by communicating and understanding each other can solve the problem of incompetence in the economy.

Do you want to talk about money between couples? There may be no right or wrong answer. What is important is whether the two can respect each other, accompany each other, and live a good life of "grounding".

"Love is not a fireworks on earth, love is a fireworks on earth."

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