Is the heartbeat at the date of dating, or is the "suspension effect" designed by the other party?

Review expert: Peach

National Psychological Counselor

In the past two years, the popularity of love variety shows has continued to decrease. The handsome men and women in the show have been CP, or the Shura field has continued, or it makes people call sweetness. When each couple is dating, it is essential to experience the experience of some irritating amusement projects. The jumper jumping machine in the playground, the outdoor adventure of the danger, the thrilling room escape ... the feelings of men and women are often heating up in such thrilling and abnormal activities. In fact, there is a small mystery behind these dating projects, the suspension bridge effect.

What is the "suspension bridge effect"?

The word suspension bridge effect comes from a very interesting psychological test: Researchers arranged a young lady in the center of the two bridges and conducted a questionnaire survey on the men passing from the bridge, leaving her phone number at the same time.

The final experimental results are: men passing from a smooth and safe, high height bridge do not think that women standing on the bridge have a lot of attractiveness, and there are not many who are willing to contact her after the experiment. However, those men who walked through the suspended suspension bridge that were relatively thrilling and walking on it, not only willing to contact the experiments after the experiments, but also thought that the lady's appearance was attractive. The same lady is in a different environment, but has different experimental results.

In psychology, there are many tests similar to the "suspension bridge effect". This is not an accidental result. According to the empirical research of emotional psychologist Arthur Allen, dangerous or irritating situations can promote emotions, that is, the "suspension bridge effect" is indeed a catalyst of human emotions.

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So why does the environment of "suspension bridge" affect people's emotions?

How does the "suspension effect" affect emotions?

First of all, we must know that human emotional experience does not necessarily originate from its own practical feelings and experiences, but is based on the explanation of their physiological awakening (accompanied by the physiological reaction of emotions and emotions). And physiological awakening is another very complicated process, involving a series of physiological activities such as nervous system, circulation system, and internal and external secretion systems.

This mechanism determines that it is difficult to find the reason accurately and efficiently when facing physiological awakening. Therefore, many times, we can't distinguish between our heartbeat acceleration, is it the heartbeat and feelings of the hearts of the joy, or because of the normal reaction after stimulating the activity? Therefore, many times the heartbeat acceleration will be considered "heartbeat", and it is easier to have a good impression on the other party.

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But why only stimulating activities can produce this effect? It is also inseparable from human physiological mechanisms behind it. When we are in an unstable and more dangerous situation, the human body will release a neuropic stimulant called benzenetopine. Its secretion will bring physiological phenomena such as acceleration of heartbeat, shortness of breath, sweating of palms, and redness, and it will also feel extremely excited and happy.

In order to further understand the reasons behind this physiological reaction, our brain has also begun to play the ability of "investigation" to explain these behaviors from the cognitive level. However, due to the blurred scenario and the complex scenes, the brain cannot give an accurate answer, and it cannot answer the real reason why your heartbeat accelerates. So many times the error attribution is formed, that is, the error believes that the "Little Deer races" is brought by the charm and attractiveness of the peers.

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Therefore, in addition to the suspension bridge, watching terrorist movies, roller coasters, etc. are listed as a must -have project for dating. At the same time, when people are in a dangerous environment, the sense of security and dependence with each other is also a weapon for emotional heating up.

Psychological phenomenon in dating

In addition to the suspension bridge effect, there are many interesting psychological phenomena in dating. For example, the "exposure effect" also comes from the experiments of psychologists: Researchers arranged some "research assistants" in the student classroom. Each assistant's responsibilities are the same, but they are sitting as quiet as human models, and they will not have words with students. The comparison items on the top are different times for each assistant. The final experimental results show that the more the assistant, the higher the favorability of the assistant.

In life, this can explain why some people "look more and more love", and the number of times they see will be proportional to the love. Just like many public figures, exposure and popularity are closely linked. However, the exposure effect is not to say that the more times, the deeper the relationship. When the initial impression is not good, the exposure will not increase the favorability.

Therefore, if you want to brush your favorability through the exposure effect, you still need some skills, such as creating a relatively beautiful first impression. In subsequent meetings, you create a comfortable atmosphere of communication.

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"Dark Effect" is also a hot issue in psychology, that is, in a place where the light is relatively dark, the possibility of getting close to the two parties will be much higher than that of the light. Different environment will bring different feelings. In the dark environment, human expression and physical movements will be more relaxed, the content of the conversation will be more real and deeper, expressing more friendship.

In addition, the "dark effect" may also be the presence of the original memory of human beings.Since ancient times, night is the most threatening environment for human beings. It will make people more inclined to stay with companions at night, so it will naturally strengthen the connection with others in the dark.However, don't think that the dark effect is great, and the impact of the dark effect is both parties. When you want to improve the charm through a dark environment when you are dating, you must also consider that you are also under the influence of the dark effect.Source 丨 News Picture

The "suspension bridge effect" is accelerated by the heartbeat, the "exposure effect" accumulates favorability, and the "dark effect" creates a sense of intimacy.These psychological effects are accompanied by books, TV dramas, etc. into our lives and are called "dating cheats".But no matter what effect, human emotions are a magical process. We can use these effects reasonably, but don't forget that sincerity is the criterion for interpersonal communication.

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