Children are not willing to go to my grandmother's house. It is not wayward.

Before the child is in school, he especially likes to go to relatives and often go to his grandmother's house.

I do n’t know when, it ’s more and more unwilling to go to relatives and visit the elders. Every time I ask him if he goes to his grandmother's house, he shakes like a wave of waves.

You should know that when your child is very close to his grandmother when he was a kid, why do you go to the grandmother's house now?

Every time you go to school, everyone is there, but he will not come!

I remember that the child was born, because the grandmother was the first junior in our family, the child was particularly favored, and everyone liked to tease him.

After finishing the farm work every day, the while holding the child to go out for a walk. In addition to the busy family affairs at home, he will also change the tricks to make all kinds of delicious food for the children. Clothing, the atmosphere is particularly warm.

On weekends, New Year and New Year, as long as you have time, you will run to the house. After a few years, the children are old, but they have established a deep friendship with everyone.

But after school, slowly, the number of children went to my grandmother's house was getting less and less.

I asked her why, my grandmother is so good to you, and I think about you every day. Why are you so ruthless now? Aren't you willing to go when you were young?

I said that too, he always lowered his head and cope with silence.

For this reason, my sister counted him several times.

One day, in my mother's group, some people are discussing this topic:

"Why do you want to go to your grandmother's house when he grows up? After so many years of learning, why do n’t you understand politeness and filial piety?"

01

I have watched a movie called "Love, Go Home", which tells the story of a little grandson and grandmother:

Because of work, my mother went to the grandmother's house in the countryside.

When I first arrived, the little grandson was very uncomfortable. The grandmother's house was torn, the living environment was not good, and her grandmother was not literate. Moreover, because of physical defects, my grandmother couldn't speak.

The little grandson was very boring and boring. He was a little disgusted with her grandmother. She also tried to make fun of her, hid her shoes, stole her sister -in -law, yelled at her grandmother, and was very picky about the food.

But my grandmother has never been angry, and never blame the little grandson, save money to buy cakes for children, take heavy rain to the city of dozens of miles away, buy the battery of a game console for the children, prefer to go dozens of miles of the foothills of the mountain. , I don't want to spend money on the bus.

In the end, her grandmother felt her grandson with love.

The ending of the movie is beautiful, but the relationship between the grandmother and Sun Ji, the refraction, is thought -provoking.

I have seen a blogger and once talked about chatting with her niece, saying that a family of grandmother's family wanted to see her. For so long, she didn't know she was going to be. Many younger brothers and sisters also want to play with him.

The niece lasted straight and said that she was in junior high school, and she was no longer a little fart. She had her own ideas, so she had to give her a little freedom and space. "

The blogger felt a little reasonable after listening to the child's words. The teenage child is no longer the little tail of his parents. They don't want to go "relatives". There are many reality.

Some people describe the relationship between grandmother and grandson, saying that grandson is a dog, and leave when they are full.

Although it is a bit over, it is not willing to go to the grandmother's house, which does not mean that the children are not filial. This is all underlying:

First, the distance is too far away

Every time we take our children to my grandmother's house, we spend a lot of time on the road. The child is a little motion sick and takes a transportation tool for a long time.

From this point of view, going to my grandmother's house is tantamount to a very hard trip. The road is sleepy and unwilling to go. It is indeed an instinctual expression.

Second, no familiar playmates, boring

When children are usually at home, some like -minded "playmates" can always be found in the community, but they can go to the grandfather's house. The familiar partners have disappeared. The children who know again may be due to the differences in cultural levels and age. There is no common language. Children will feel particularly boring.

Third, it is not convenient at home

I have a deep understanding of this.

When I took my son to live in the maid's house, no one asked him to play, so he turned it at home.

When the 2-3-year-old children can't stop, they turn it over and touch it, especially the things of the little brother and sister are particularly curious.

Once, the child accidentally took a piece of brother's color paper. After being discovered, his brother yelled at him: "Why are you so moving and touch everything? This is in my house, not your house!"

The child was relatively small at the time, and he didn't understand what his brother said, but he was stunned and didn't care about it. He continued to play other things, but I heard it next to me.

When is this distinction so obvious?

Although Tong Yan Wuji, you have to admit that there is nothing wrong with what he said.

Who can you criticize?

It cannot be said that the children are all glass -hearted now.

Think about the child's home, all kinds of damage, you can play what you want to play, and turn the family overwhelming. The child and my dad never said him.

But outside, even if it is a grandmother's house, it may not be so arrogant. It is really impossible to converge or rules. After all, you have to consider the feelings of others.

Maybe the child is unwilling to be grandmother's house. A large part is this helpless sense of restraint.

Fourth, distinguish

Many old grandsons and grandsons, many elderly people will still treat them differently.

In the New Year, the grandson was giving the older grandson, and the grandson would obviously less. Although the child didn't say it, he was very sensitive.

Where adults ignore, children can feel it.

Moreover, when a bunch of children are together, they will inevitably compare each other. At home, children are the focus of our attention. However, when we arrive at my grandmother's house, they may be ignored because of identity problems.

Remember that there is such a scene in the TV series "Little Giving":

Huanhuan had a happy meal. As a result, her aunt was nagging at the dinner table. What awards did her son get, how many of the exams, and which good school to enter in the future.

At the end, my aunt would have to say: "Huanhuan, you are not in a hurry, the countdown in the old test class is not enough."

In the end, Huanhuan didn't eat, and he cried, and ran home directly.

Although the child is small, he is also an independent individual. He also has self -esteem and loves face.

The child grows up day by day, and slowly breaks away from the childhood childhood, and has entered adolescence. It is normal for the thoughts to be left and right with their parents.

Based on the above reasons, the bigger the child, it is not surprising that it is not a surprise that the child is not like to follow the parents everywhere.

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When the child does not want to go to the grandmother's house and does not want to follow relatives with his parents, we should not be angry, and do not blindly blame and rush to count him because of the pressure from relatives. Essence

The calmness and the child communicate with the child. After understanding the reason, it is properly guided, which is the correct way to deal with it.

Specifically, try to do this:

a. Clarify what the real reason is

Some children originally heard that they would go to relatives and be happy. But when I was going out, I suddenly played with unwillingness.

At this point, we must be patient, squat down, and ask the children's specific reasons.

Don't use your authority to confront your children, don't look at the child's small, sometimes he is very opinionated.

For example, once, the child's sister came to play and played, and the child suddenly ran over with a small mouth, and his face was particularly unhappy. I asked him about what happened. Controls his emotions.

In the end, with my encouragement, the child said stuck: I want toys, my sister ...

It turned out that he was going to play with his sister's toy. His sister did not play with him, but his father didn't buy him. This was not a temper.

Therefore, in the face of children who go out and go out, they lean down and listen to why the children are in trouble. Try to look at the problem from the perspective of the child, guide more communication, and it is best to solve his problem first.

If the bad emotions are driven away, the child will be in a good mood to avoid misunderstandings and further pull into parent -child relationships.

b. Respect children's personality

If the child is old and enter adolescence, we better respect his "personality", don't force it.

Don't look at your children from the perspective of others. Don't be "dissatisfied" because others say anything to their children. After all, children in this period began to think about their "life" and busy with their parents to "separate separation from their parents" "".

Psychologically, they feel that they are already an adult, and they don't need to run around with their parents like before.

Therefore, for children with adolescence at home, it is best not to use the "command" and "forced" method. Doing so will only increase the child's rebellion.

We can use persuasion to express our own concerns first. For example, tell children that people are group animals, and they need to interact with people. Social networking is inevitable. You must learn to adapt to the changes in the environment.

Whether it is grandmother or grandma, it is a child who respects and likes. Happiness and satisfaction.

What do you think of the child's unwilling to go to your grandmother's house? Welcome to discuss.

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