When people reach middle age, learn to loosen themselves

There is a sentence in "Tao Te Ching": "Holding it and making it better than it."

The container is full of things, and it will overflow. In order to prevent overflow, you must persist.

The same is true of life. Excessive pursuit of perfection will only be counterproductive.

The pain of adults is like a feathers under the foot. The more hard you are, the more you fly, and it is difficult to bypass it.

It's better to calm down, do your best, and seek victory steadily.

Life is too hard, it is a kind of self -consumption

I have heard such a sentence: "Too hard face, often twisted and lost the original beauty."

Having said that, it is real.

If a person is too pursuing perfection, it will often only be crushed.

Recently, colleagues Chen Dan suddenly fell ill and everyone was surprised.

Chen Dan has always been a well -known "female iron man". She has a strong ability to work, and she has organized well in her family. Everyone admires her as a double winner of the family.

The word "extreme" is not exaggerated at a little on Chen Dan.

In order to take care of her family, she gets up at 5 o'clock every day, changing her pattern to make breakfast for her children, and even the children's clothes insist on washing hand.

The children's homework, from the history of national studies to thinking and physical function, she also arranged properly.

In order to ensure the progress of work, after waiting for the child to sleep every night, she has to work late at night.

Speaking of work, Chen Dan is meticulous, and she will repeatedly confirm every data on financial statements.

Accounting score is also very detailed and continuously optimized until they are satisfied.

In life, her family boasted that she was a good wife and mother; at work, the leader praised her meticulous and serious.

But on that day, Chen Dan couldn't carry it and fainted directly in the office.

After being checked by the doctor, it was confirmed that the brain blood supply caused by excessive stress was insufficient.

A tight strings at all times, without paying attention to it, there will be a defeat of the string collapse.

The so -called "perfectionism" is actually just a pseudo -proposition. If you want everything to be perfect, you must be anxious and uneasy.

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If you want to be dyed at home, you must follow the specified plan. If you have a little deviation, you will worry about something wrong.

The tight state at all times makes people not relax for a moment.

There is no wrong pursuit of perfection, but if there is everything, it becomes a disaster.

The Chinese pay attention to: the monthly profit and loss, the water is overflowing.

Life is too hard and is a kind of self -consumption.

Those who are too pursuing perfection are easy to be perfectly touched and fell halfway.

When people reach middle age, they may wish to let themselves go in a timely manner and learn to loosen themselves.

Knowing how to leave the power can you win at the end

As the saying goes: "Too hard people don't run far."

The road of life is long, and it is not explosive power, but lasting power.

Only by maintaining a stable output can you win the end; you know how to keep your power to win at the end.

I have heard the story of the Antarctic Exploration Team, which left a very deep impression on me.

In fact, there were two teams to go to the Antarctic exploration team in total.

In the first team, regardless of the weather, every day, thunder can't move, and will insist on traveling about 30 kilometers before resting.

In the second team, when the weather is good, it will enter 40 to 60 kilometers, and when the weather is not good, rest in the tent.

As a result, the first team was the first to reach the Antarctic point as expected and returned smoothly.

The second team arrived in the Antarctic point for nearly a month.

But at that time, the southern hemisphere had begun to winter. When the second team returned, the weather became worse and worse, and in the end, no one lived.

The first team, because of the "long water flow" and the strategy of uniform power, allowed the players to have sufficient energy, and they could achieve their goals every day, full of confidence, and returned successfully.

In the face of difficulties and setbacks, choosing to move forward is a kind of courage.

But only by learning to be uniform and step by step can you get your wish.

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I have seen such a news:

Xiao Zhang had a gambling with his friends, and he had to practice 6 abdominal muscles within two months. He assaulted and practiced. As a result, the horizontal muscle was dissolved and caused acute renal failure.

This is like a paragraph in Kafka's work "Castle":

"If you want to get what you want, if you are too hard and you are too fierce, you will find nothing like a child to pull the tablecloth."

Life is like pulling rubber bands with both hands. The greater the force, the stronger the rebound.

The so -called "high open and low" is just a seemingly gorgeous flashy.

Real masters, know how to rely on endurance and win at the end.

If you win too hard for a while, you can win for a lifetime without loosening

In the law of Mo Fei, there is a Lunan law, saying::

"During the race, it is not necessarily to win quickly; when fighting, it may not lose."

To the end, it is the real winner.

Life is like chess, in fact, there is no so -called "big move".

The real master is just a down -to -earth step.

When writer Wu Danru studied Japanese in college, he worked very hard at first.

The roommate only studied half an hour a day, but she learned two hours a day.

She thought that learning one and a half hours a day would definitely learn better.

But not long after, Wu Danru began to retreat.

Because Japanese occupies too much time, as long as she learn Japanese, she will be interrupted by other things.

Sometimes the goal is too large, but cannot persist.

The more long -term roads, the more you need to learn to jog.

If you riven forward at the beginning, consume your energy in advance, and then have no strength to deal with the remaining journey. Source: panoramic vision

Life is like running a marathon. At the beginning, he was too hard and he was often exhausted.

Writer Liu Tong was well versed in this truth, so he chose to run a small step to run and even force.

Liu Tong worked at a media company when he first graduated.

At that time, his salary was very low, and he often worried about eating and renting a house.

He also felt that the road of life became more and more difficult, but it became his emotional exit.

Later, he couldn't move every day, insisted on writing 2000 words, and insisted on running 10 kilometers a day.

During this period, he didn't care about evaluation, nor did he care about gains and losses.

After about ten years, he published his first book "Who's Youth is not confused", which was loved by everyone and made a super high reputation movie.

Later, Liu Tong became famous and became a best -selling writer.

If you win too hard for a while, you can win for a lifetime.

Before the end of the sprint, learn to run a small step.

Before the high fire collects the juice, it is also important to stew slowly.

Yang Yan said: "We used to be so eager for the wave of fate, and finally found that the most beautiful scenery of life was actually calm and calm in our hearts."

After half a lifetime, after the world, it was found that it was true.

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Not every seed can grow into a big tree, becoming a white swan is not the only way out of the ugly duckling.

In the face of regret, the best way is not to fight too much, but to let it go.

Unnecessary entanglement, instead pushing itself to the bottomless abyss.

Let go of your hands and your hands will naturally have everything.

Pay attention to the "reader", and hope that you and I will calm down in front of life, calm their minds, uniformly force, less obsession, and more calm.

Author: Mona Mom, go through the wind and rain with the children, smell flowers.

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