A good mentality, the pattern is great

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Author: insight allergy

In the lowest situation, the highest state can also be lived.

When Bai Yansong gave a speech at Sun Yat -sen University, he mentioned a student.

The student said that he was encountering the darkest moment in life, and he didn't want to live.

When I asked about the specific thing, I knew that he was not a graduate student who was admitted to Tsinghua.

Listen, Bai Yansong asked him:

Do you think this is frustrated? In fact, the real setback is a great tragedy related to life.

Some unsatisfactory unwillingness encountered in academic, career, and even emotional journey, putting it in the long river of life, is just a period of experience.

The reason why you feel unable to go is just because the pattern is too small.

Those with a small pattern, pessimistic, and enlarged all difficulties in habitual.

If your pattern becomes bigger, those who you have thought of being sad in the past would be just a trivial matter.

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If you don't blame everything, the realm is high

Bill Gates said: "Learn to accept inevitable reality, learn to cope with the problems caused by defects, and complain about it."

In the face of difficulties, complaints are an instinct, but solving problems is a kind of ability.

Writer Liu Ye told a story in the book.

During a college classmate, he complained to him, saying that the leader was too cheating and worked hard every day, and only gave a little salary.

Liu Ye listened, and said with his classmates intentionally: "You can resign with such a bad leader. But how can you do it for so long. You have to learn more and then change jobs, so that you don't lose."

After listening to it, the classmates felt that it was reasonable, so I took the initiative to work overtime every day, stayed with the writing of English business documents, and even found a worker to learn how to repair the printed machine. I thought that if I started a business one day, I could save a maintenance fee.

In this way, after half a year, Liu Ye asked his classmates to change jobs?

The classmate said to him with a smile: "I am promoting and salary, and the leader looks at me.

William Ward said: The pessimistic people complained that the wind was winding, the optimists waited for the wind, and the realists adjusted the wind.

Instead of spending time and energy on useless complaining, it is better to improve yourself with a positive attitude.

The editor -in -chief of "Fortune" magazine, Ji Fuko, said: "The pattern determines the ending, and the attitude determines the height."

The success or failure of a person is hidden in his pattern and attitude.

Every step he takes a large pattern is to resolve the complaints in his heart and silently open the road that crosses the class.

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If you are frustrated, your eyes will be wide

Writer Li Xiaoyu talked about an experience of his emotions out of control in the book.

At the age of 26, she was a salesman of a company.

Once, in order to get a hard -to -entangle customer, she took a lot of nights and wrote a meticulous contract.

Who knew that the other party was overthrown again and again, and she had to take it back to change again and again.

When she submitted the plan to stay up late to the client again, she didn't expect that customer to glance at them at will, and began to pick her problem.

At this time, she couldn't hold back, and yelled at the customer:

"Your reason is simply nonsense. Do you think you are my God of Wealth? I won't wait for the old lady!"

After speaking, he left the customer and ran to an uninhabited place, crying.

As a result, she lost this customer, and the order was soaked.

This client also spoke bad things about her everywhere, which caused many bosses to dare to talk to her business, and her performance fell straight.

As the so -called: one forbearance can control all humiliation, and one static can make anger.

Rather than angry, it is better to fight.

In Lu Yao's novel "Life", the protagonist Gao Jialin originally had an opportunity to turn from private teachers to formal teachers.

However, the hard -working work was finally replaced by the son of the village cadre.

Faced with unfairness and oppression, Gao Jialin could not bear it.

Because he knows that there is no strength to counterattack, it is the most useless thing.

In order to feed himself, he went to the city to pull the campaign in the city with the ridicule and insults of the people around him.

While pulling dung, while bittering literature, in major events and poetry literature at home and abroad, secretly charged.

In the end, he turned over a work of an iron rice bowl, which made him straighten his waist in the city.

A Bannanbayev once said, "It is ridiculous to yell in anger; silence in anger, it is respectable."

Dahanda is not the ability, and it is a long -term perspective.

After all, if you have seen the turbulent waves of the sea, you will not be surprised to a little bit of water in the pond.

If your goal is the top of the mountain, it will not be tripped by wild flowers and grass.

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If the place is low or humble, the pattern is big

The daughter of Wu Jun, former vice president of Tencent, asked his father what he had for her before entering the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.

After careful thinking, Wu Jun said to his daughter: "Keeping optimism is more important than anything."

After all, one hill turns over, and there will be another hill to turn over.

The important thing for people to live is not to find all the way, but even thoroughly, they must learn to regulate and cure themselves.

Cai Lan had a taxi, flowers in the car, and small decorative ornaments. The driver master smiled.

At that time, there were few people who took a taxi, and most of the drivers were frowning.

Cai Lan was curious. The driver said: "The mentality is more optimistic, and the luck will be good. Just like when the guest gets off the car, I will download it and do business immediately."

Good luck will never beckoned to the listless person, and his fate has never been unfortunate in tears. The place where life is particularly kind is that he will give an excuse to the escape people, and will always give the optimistic person to the entrance.

Recently, I saw Yu Hua's interview.

It was found that Yu Hua's famous road was not smooth. In the early days of writing, he was often withdrawn, and some manuscripts were even thrown back to the yard by the postman.

At that time, a colleague of Yu Hua persuaded him to give up and said that he had worked hard like this, and said, "My today is your tomorrow."

But Yu Hua has the momentum of "you get back the more you write".

He will study why he will be returned first with a retreat, and then see where he returns, and then find a lower -end magazine to send it.

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Yu Hua said that his manuscript was mailed more than more than 30 years later.

When "Brothers" was published, scolding, and everyone was singing, he was busy playing with his family to watch the ball at the Wusong Stadium.

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The words are light and light, but only he knows the bitterness.

People with a large pattern, like occupying the highlands, know that the normal state of life is ups and downs.

Even in the lowest situation, the highest state can be lived.

The sapling does not experience the wind and rain, it is difficult to become a big tree. People do not experience suffering and frustration, and it is difficult to become a pattern.

When you face life with a calm mentality, you will be more flat.

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On the cover of the book "Strategy Counterattack", a very prominent line of words:

"Some people rely on talent counterattack, some people rely on identity counterattack. If you have nothing, maybe you can only rely on the pattern."

Walking in the world, whether you can bear the wind and rain, and pass through the mud, is not in the creation of destiny, but in the mentality of the event, the pattern of life.

You can first change your mentality to change the pattern of your life.

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