Fudan goddess Chen Guo exploded four years after four years of disappearance: people in social groups, the soul is lonely

Author: insight, holding a book girl

If you do not fit, you are not lonely, but the soul independence.

Remember the goddess Chen Guo?

In the past, because of her outstanding temperament, novel thoughts, and humorous teaching style, she once triggered the Internet.

Many of her wonderful remarks have been widely circulated. Various speeches and videos of lectures are even more popular.

At that time, she was a professor of Internet celebrities admired by 10,000 people, and was the "soul idol" and "soul mentor" of countless people.

However, all this suddenly changed four years ago.

In 2019, because of reading two words, she read "耄耋" as "Mao Zhi". She was overwhelmed by netizens, abuse, and even called "shame in the education industry".

After a sincere apology, Chen Guo gradually "disappeared" over time.

Today, four years have passed, and there are rarely her traces on the Internet world.

Someone regretted her, and felt that as long as she met the group who once sought after her and explained it for herself, she must still be still widespread the goddess of Fudan.

But she didn't.

This is not her arrogant, but that she has always been awake and transparent, she understands:

The noise of the outside world is just a kind of consumption. After the lively, the only empty is empty.

So she did not argue hard, blindly catering, but just focused on focusing on herself and continuing her educational cause.

She is calm enough for her reputation and her public opinion is enough. In this era of countless people, she digs out the limelight and eyeballs.

And it is precisely this unsuitable, so that she has enough time and energy, cultivating herself in the years, and practicing her heart and full soul.

Thinking of a sentence in "Zhuangzi · Ji":

It is unique to go alone; the unique person is the most expensive.

Those who are really mentally rich and rich are often alone.

01

Blind groups are internal consumption. Yan Rujing, the debater of "Qi Qi", once said: "If the union is not the same is lonely, the group is really lonely."

In life, many people always force themselves to go together in their growth and try to get rid of loneliness in the hustle and bustle.

As everyone knows, many of the groups we think are mostly invalid social and mental internal consumption.

Zhihu has told his own story.

When he first started working, because he liked to be alone, some people said that he was uncomfortable and even condemned him for pride and selfishness.

In order to better integrate into the collective, he did not seem so incompatible, he forced himself to make changes and strive to go together.

Colleagues chase the drama and play games, he also chasing the drama to play games;

After getting off work, he went to the party to drink, and he began to join the initiative.

Unconsciously, he learned to smoke, drink, play cards, and play games.

Seeing that he was increasingly unlike himself, he felt pain and depression, and couldn't help doubt:

"I worked so hard to eliminate the quirks on my body and actively cater to the pace of others. I thought I would find a sense of belonging, but why do I feel more boring and empty now?"

Someone gives an answer that sees blood:

"Strive to integrate a collective, what is wrong is that the goal is wrong. When you blindly integrate into a bad circle, you will naturally only be exhausted physically and mentally."

It is true.

Desperate to integrate a group that is not suitable for you, it will only take up your time and consume your energy.

Let your heart become empty in deliberate clusters, and spiritual barren blindness.

As Chen Guo said: "Think of ways to call friends and friends, and find the comforters when they are lonely with false prosperity. After all, it is useless.

Because of the lively popularity, there is no way to get inner enrichment, spiritual excitement, and peace of soul.

02

Those who do not fit, the soul is full. Luo Yonghao said that people with thoughts are not in groups.

If you do not fit, you are not lonely, but the independence of the soul.

After Chen Guo became popular, her class was full, and she also appeared on "CCTV News" many times.

At that time, she was surrounded by flowers and applause.

But at the peak of popularity and the most noisy outside, she did not lose herself.

Instead, he was drawn out of the crowd, and he enjoyed his own alone.

Every day, she is still trying to prepare lessons. In free time, she stayed quietly in the house and published a few best -selling books.

After becoming more popular, she was so popular before she became popular.

When she was studying in Canada, the physical distance between her and relatives and friends around her reached unprecedented far away from childhood.

But the wonderful thing is that she did not feel lonely and lonely at that time, but was very fulfilled.

Every holiday, she avoids the crowd, stays away from the hustle and bustle, thinks about her own, and wants to do it, filling her daily full.

She has always been in the world without the world. She is a world of self -containing her mind. She is like an endless and endless treasure to provide her with endless spiritual resources and nutrition.

Make her a rich and interesting person.

She said: "The lively and most easily disrupted our inner tranquility and leisure, making us upset and irritable.

We should give ourselves more time, because when we learn to get along well with ourselves, our strength will start to wake up, and our hearts will become more and more powerful. "

indeed so. As Feng Jicai said:

"The mediocre people fill the emptiness with lively, and excellent people can achieve themselves alone."

People who are not in line do not mean that there is no like -minded partner, nor does it mean lonely and boring. On the contrary, they are often full of heart and full soul.

They are not afraid of loneliness and enjoy loneliness.

Do not want to fulfill others, only obey the heart, and focus more on the people and things they love.

03

High -quality socialization is the result of active screening. High -quality social networking is not to be able to live with anyone, but to who and who.

More important than the group, what kind of group is always the group and what kind of circle to choose.

Economist Xue Zhaofeng has exposed himself that he has always been a lingering horse.

He rarely participated in the classmates. Colleagues who interspersed the situation told him to go out to drink and dinner.

It seems that he does not understand human affection, and he is actually more social than anyone else.

In idle, he will discuss economics with likely Luo Zhenyu and other like -minded people, and will also study in -depth content with friends such as Cai Kangyong.

Therefore, he is not uncomfortable, but has a choice. He only has the same frequency of the same frequency and only contacts a comfortable circle.

Chen Guo is the same.

After the accident became popular, waves of students and even outside schools had come to her, allowing her to know countless people in a short time.

It stands to reason that she should have an endless entertainment.

But the reality is that she still calmly comes and goes alone. She goes out to shop alone.

This is not her popularity, but even if her friends are thousands of, she does not indulge in meaningless communication.

Occasionally, I only read books, drink tea, and talk about philosophy in a room with three or five like -minded friends.

Writer Zhang Chao said: "Good interpersonal relationships are not harmonious with everyone. It is precisely the unclear with some people to show your maturity."

Social networking is a screening.

People who are truly mature and sober never follow the trend, but have some choices, stay away from the circle that is not suitable for you, and find the inner freedom.

04

There is a story saying that an oil tycoon found that heaven was full, so he announced loudly that oil was found in hell.

People quickly swarmed out and went to Hell Taobao.

When this tycoon saw everyone, he was afraid that there was oil in hell, and he followed.

It can be seen that it is often the crowd and the psychology.

There is a saying in "Ahead of Lonely":

"Those who blindly integrate themselves into the crowd, the easier it is to feel lonely and lonely."

Captive everyone to do not dispel loneliness and be awake to be able to do well.

Like a praise, learn the rest of your life, and enjoy a person's cleanliness.

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