There is nothing to go, only those who can't figure it

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-The book and signing author-

Have you ever had a similar experience:

The discussion of others is worried about where you are not doing well; when you encounter inconsistent people and things, you will not be used to it, and you ca n’t wait to correct them one by one; if things suddenly change, you ca n’t hold your temper, either Irritable is either irritable.

Zhou Guoping said: "There must be incompetence wisdom in life."

There are always endless problems in life, which makes people painful and exhausted physically and mentally. When you go through those ups and downs, look back, it has made you indignant, but it is just a cloud of smoke.

Once we loved and hate, thinking that the world is not black or white. Things must be divided into right or wrong, and we are not accustomed to many people and things.

Later, I gradually realized that there is no need to be absolute in the event of an incident, and sometimes the more love is more disturbing. When encountering bad people, ignoring, not fighting, and not angry, it is true wisdom.

01

Live yourself, live yourself, don't live in others' mouths

Someone asked on the Weibo of the writer Cai Lan and asked: "How do you treat the discussion of others?"

Cai Lan replied four words: "I don't care."

Indeed, in the face of those bad evaluations that come out, we can't control the mouth of others. We can only adhere to our hearts and be frank to be ourselves. Laughing is the best response to rumors.

With the broadcast of the show "Like the Song", a "treasure girl" appeared in the public's field of vision. She said: My name is Fang Qi, not giving up.

Now Fang Qi is a travel blogger who has won the moon. She describes the beauty of the world in a warm and moving language.

But when she just entered the society, she was not going well, and she had suffered many doubts.

As soon as she arrived in Beijing, in order to get rid of the roots, she called the major column groups for job hunting, but was repeatedly rejected.

Later, she entered the TV station, but was laughed at the non -standard of Pu Call, and a northeast flavor, so she insisted on listening to two hours of news every day, and then corrected her pronunciation over and over again.

Some people say that she was ugly, and she didn't look like the host at all, so she began to lose weight and refused to eat any high -calorie food.

When she finally became a real CCTV host from the internship, others said that she held a "broken rice bowl", the outlook host, the wind came in the rain, there was no good prospect.

Fang Qi didn't think that she cherished such opportunities and worked hard in the snowy mountains and deserts, just to shoot better results.

This step -by -step effort not only made her stand firm on the TV station, but also laid the foundation for her future travel bloggers.

After work, she also participated in various competition programs and successfully played her reputation. When everyone changed her mouth to say that she was holding the "golden rice bowl", she chose to clear her herself and be a travel blogger.

She never lived in others' mouths, but used the stubbornness in her bones to work hard to live.

In life, there may be no reason to slander you for no reason, or some people may inexplicably hurt you. If we care about it and entangle it, we will only get ourselves into the vortex and finally exhausted.

Life is alive, or if you live well, your mentality is the most important. Putting all the words of others in your heart, you lose, no matter how much rumors, ignorance, and living yourself, not living in others' mouths.

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Behind the open -mindedness, there is different respect for different hearts

There is such a sentence: "In this world, half of people are happy, and the other half does not understand."

Everyone is independent, with different lifestyles and trajectories of life. In the face of the habits and hobbies of others, we cannot judge the right or wrong. Even if we cannot agree, we must learn to respect others' choices.

There are many states in the world and different sorrows and joy. In a relationship, the best maintenance method is respect and acceptance. Only by understanding and respecting differentness can the heart be more open -minded.

Writer Han Songluo shared his own little story:

His good friend is Lao Liu. He does not have a formal job. He only rents the rent of two houses left by his parents. The house is remote and the rent is not high.

Han Songluo looked in his eyes and was anxious.

Although Lao Liu has no ambitions, he is very good at making pottery. Each finished product is exquisite and elegant.

Han Songluo couldn't help sighing: Lao Liu had such a good craft, and he shouldn't have been so embarrassed.

So he began to make suggestions for his friends and thought about a few ways to go out: renting pottery kiln, mass production, opening a class, opening an online shop, etc.

Han Song is upset, as if Lao Liu's great future is in front of him. But Lao Liu was full of panic, and he didn't want to live this life.

At the beginning, Han Songluo felt that Lao Liu's "didn't ask for progress", and it didn't gradually understand until a few years.

"He can also fight, live in introverted and low, this is his right."

Han Songluo is really good for friends, but everyone wants different lives. Everyone has their own preferences and preferences.

Murakami Murakami once said: "Not all fish live in the same ocean."

There are more than one lane on the road of life, but also more than one way of living.

Some people go to the mountains, and some people rush to the sea. Everyone's return is different, and choices are naturally different.

The famous psychologist Jung once said to his apprentice:

"Don't even have the idea of ​​changing others. Everyone's response to the sunlight is different. Some people feel dazzling. Some people feel warm, and some people even avoid the sun."

People with a large pattern, knowing how to be different, we cannot impose our wishes to others. Even if the point of view is the opposite, we must choose to respect the difference between the other party. When you look at all things in the world with a tolerance heart, your heart must be open -minded, and what you meet is also beautiful.

03

Not irritable, the less you can see, the better you live

The writer Schopenhauer once said: "Angered by the behavior of others, just like a person who has a big temper with a big stone."

In just dozens of years, we do not need to spend time and energy on people and things that are not worth it. Do n’t have to be entangled about what others say wrong or wrong, do n’t pollute your heart for the mistakes of others.

Yesterday morning, I got a taxi to work. After a crossroads, the pedestrians and electric vehicles on the zebra crossing are waiting for the red light of the straight trail. After repeated confirmation of safety, the driver master prepared to turn right.

Unexpectedly, a electric car was suddenly rushed out of the right side, inserted to the front of our right, passed straight, broke through the red light, and was almost taken down by a taxi.

This is the fault of the electric owner, but the other party stopped and yelled at the driver. However, the taxi driver did not return to him. Instead, he smiled towards the other party, and then drove away.

I am amazed by the driver's master's calmness and asked, "Aren't you angry?"

The driver's master smiled and said, "When I first got on the road, I would catch up with this situation, but later I found that this is not only a waste of time, but it is also very dangerous. It is really unnecessary."

Many people have experienced driving: being cut in line, being caught by a car, and then we are angry and scolded loudly. For this inadvertent episode, the day that should have been happy was extremely boring.

Su Dongpo said a word: "It is not shocked, and it is not angry at no reason.

There is no thing to live in life. Only those who can't figure it out, when you can't get used to less, you don't have so much trouble. When you can hold your temper, you must also control your life.

The writer Su Yan once said: "Life is actually very simple. If you do n’t add chaos to himself, life is not chaotic at all. No matter what the situation, you ca n’t mess up."

After all, we must understand: hate one person, the most expensive consumption in the world, because we pay our own effort. In the face of cold words, don't take it to your heart. You must know that your mood is the most important.

Life is alive, let ourselves win peace, don't defeat to temper. When we open the pattern, the horizon will also increase, there will be gas in our hearts, and the mood of all things will be more peaceful.

04

Entangled with people who have nothing to do, torture themselves, don't take a moment of breath, let yourself fall into the trap of "emotion".

A mature person often masters the good recipe of "unwillingness, ignoring, not angry".

May you cultivate a peaceful heart. In the noisy life of the hustle and bustle, your heart is wide and wide, keeps calm, and lives as your favorite.

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