Adults collapse, and even eating fried chicken feels meaningless

"I don't want to live anymore, I don't dare to die." It is the mantra of a friend.

She said this, not because of the difficulties, frustrations, and hitting the blow, but because of life, but because of the coldness of ordinary life clips, it would come up with a word.

For example, the last time I heard her saying this sentence was to eat fried chicken together. Staring at the mobile phone with a variety show in front of him.

When I inserted an advertisement, I suddenly said:

"I really feel that it is not interesting to live, but I dare not die."

"Is fried chicken boring?" I was not upset for my favorite food.

"It's meaningless!" She twisted her head and looked at me, and she pointed at my phone with a large number of phones. "This is meaningless. All this is meaningless. Do you know? Living itself is the world in the world. The most absurd thing. Because the biggest pseudo -proposition of human beings is 'life is meaningful'. "

Then she smiled bitterly: "My parents brought me to this world, and I didn't ask my opinions. I came like this. I still have to lie to myself to live, otherwise I can't live. It's unfair. "

The advertisement was over and the topic was interrupted.

Until we started to clean up the chaotic, she carefully deducted the empty takeaway fried chicken box again, and held it to me:

"You can't see that it is actually empty, right? I sometimes feel like it is like it. It looks like others. The appearance is good, but the heart is empty."

Although we have conducted countless dialogues countless times, the word "emptiness" hit me this time.

Because in today's rhythm of life, she is more than one.

Today in the Internet era, on the surface we are surrounded by countless choices, but they are actually lost in the ocean of information.

When the sensory stimulus is so rich, we cheer for hot pot milk tea, laugh for the variety soap opera, and get angry for the hot search of Weibo, but the things deep in our hearts seem to be rarely touched.

I believe that friends who have experienced emptiness can understand this feeling. This is a sense of description of words, but it is enough to make people feel suffocating and depressed.

It seems to fall in the abyss, but there is nothing to catch.

Specifically, this emptiness is manifested in three aspects:

01

Emotional

Empty people may be willing to pursue stimuli. But this is not out of love. They just want to arouse their scarce emotions through strong stimuli and find the feeling of "living".

This emotional emptiness will make people feel lonely. They not only have a gap between their hearts and their external performance, but they also have themselves from the world.

They are eager to establish connection with others, but they cannot cross the gap between the inner world and the outside world, and eventually become their own islands.

And this kind of "gap" is often not taken actively, "I don't want to do this, but there is no way" can describe this feeling more appropriately.

However, on the other hand, their interpersonal relationships may be very good.

Because they want to support the feeling of lack of inner lack by becoming a good child, good student, good husband, and good wife. But it seems that all of this is done for others, so it is very hard and exhausted.

02

Empty

Everyone will encounter a confused moment without a goal in their lives.

I still remember that when I first went to college, classmates discussed their university planning. Some people could talk about the direction and way out of graduate students, while my mind was blank.

At that time, I looked at them with clear and powerful goals. For the first time, a envious emotion was born from the bottom of my heart- "For them, life must be very clear and simple!"

▷ I often envy those who always know what they want.

It is precisely because I have experienced this "goal empty" feelings that I can particularly understand those empty people. They really do not follow the flow, or be diverted and pass by.

They just feel "empty" in their hearts, so it is difficult to focus on something. This stems from their lack of exploration and understanding of their hearts, just like I didn't know how to plan life.

03

Meaningless

There is also a part of the emptiness, which stems from the meaning of our difficulties from the things in life.

But the source of this sense of meaning may not be because we care too much about the meaning of life, and then give it too high expectations.

Therefore, I continuously want to find meaning and find the goals of life from life, but every time I return empty -handed.

For example, my friends mentioned at the beginning, in fact, she is the one I have seen and loved the most.

She will chat with the uncle in the hutong of Beijing, and she will rush to shoot the Forbidden City of Chuxue early. When she lives alone in a foreign country, she will change the noodles, dumplings, and soups for herself every day ...

I think she must have too high expectations for life's meaning, but she struggled to be able to give it a certain definition, so she was tangled with nothingness.

▷ Middle -aged crisis is sometimes impacted by this sense of meaninglessness.

In fact, in a sense, each of our hearts will be a little empty.

Even when I am myself, when facing the soul torture such as "what is the goal" and "where is the meaning", there will be some support.

However, the process of life may be to explore things that can fill your heart little by little.How is your heart?

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