"Dad, I'm sorry, I am shameful to divorce you." This dad’s answer brushed the circle of friends

Dear daughter:

Last night, Dad received your text message.

You said, you are divorced.

You also said, sorry for me, because the divorce gave me a shame.

Silly child, you are not sorry for me, nor shame to our family.

Dad was very distressed, because I always thought my baby's daughter was very happy. I did not expect that my girlfriend also learned to reward good news.

Dad was also very guilty. I felt guilty that I did not help my daughter at first, and I didn't pay attention to your marriage state.

My daughter who grew up and grew up, in just a few years, I looked at the ugliness of the world, and tasted the hardships that I haven't eaten in the past 20 years.

Dad couldn't sleep all night, so I got up in the middle of the night and wrote this letter to you.

What is marriage?

Mr. Qian Yanshu once wrote in "Siege":

"Marriage is a siege, people outside the city want to come in, people in the city want to go out."

Love, fertility, life, responsibility, get along with two people, the combination of two families ...

The "marriage" is a magnificent subject, including too much meaning.

But for more than 30 years, Dad's biggest feeling is-

The most essential significance of marriage is: when two people are together, they must be better than one person.

If your partner is unable to cover the wind and rain for you, but he is itself storm, why should you get married?

Young people always feel that love is everything, as long as it is in love.

However, when there is always a cooling affection, the pets have faded.

No matter how strong the love is, after all, I still have to return to the small things of chai oil and salt and garlic.

When you really start to face these problems, the problem is exposed.

The true value of marriage is sometimes not reflected in what right and wrong, but on those small details.

When the weather cools down, someone can remind you to add clothes;

When you come home overtime at night, you can see that there is a lamp in the living room waiting for you;

When you do n’t vomit and want to tell, someone listens to you ...

The highlights and darkness in life, someone accompanies you, helps you, happy and happy for your happiness, and sadness for your sadness.

If these are not, the two people will not last long.

In the movie "Fantastic Year", Su Lizhen played by Maggie Cheung said such a paragraph after learning that her husband was derailed:

"I never thought that the original marriage could be so complicated, and I thought a person was done well.

"But two people are together, it is not enough to do it by themselves."

The best state of marriage is not to consume each other, but to be evenly matched; not to fight alone, but grow together.

The words that Jin Shijie said in "The remaining is the king" can be said to represent the sincerity of the parents all over the world:

"My daughter, I should think of getting married with the people I like.

"His head -up, very hard, looking forward to it, as if winning.

"Here, she can only be happy, nothing else."

The same is true in dad.

Give birth to you to raise your adult and support you to get married, not to make you suffer.

It's not to keep you incense, but to let you experience your own happiness.

Now, you choose to divorce as your father, and you will stand unconditionally with you.

Marriage is for happiness

Divorce is also

To this day, too many people have demons the "divorce" demon.

In traditional concepts, everyone feels that divorce means marriage failure, life failure, and loneliness.

Especially a woman who is divorced must bear more prejudice and discrimination.

Indeed, I have to admit that divorce is huge for a person's blow and damage.

Marriage is not a child's drama. If you are married, you need to be responsible for your child, to divide the property, and you need to face the uncertainty of life.

But Dad wants to tell you that if you can afford it all, or for you, it is a kind of liberation that allows you to return to the embrace of happiness, then you and your mother will support you.

Low -quality marriage is not as good as high -quality single.

Do you remember the grandmother who had been to our house before?

When your grandfather was young, he gambled and derailed, stealing the money at home to support women outside.

My mother -in -law leaned on the snack stall alone, and grew up with 4 children to grow up early.

Later, the grandfather had a little wife outside and had to divorce with her grandmother, but her wife did not agree.

The two were carrying a long -lasting marriage.

Until the grandfather died, the two did not usher in reconciliation.

In fact, with the ability and ability of my grandmother, there are a lot of youth to pursue her new happiness.

When she consumed with her grandfather, she also exhausted her youth and life.

It's not worth it.

Marriage, like a pair of shoes, you know that you know.

The right marriage is of course good, but the failed marriage is like a pair of inappropriate shoes that make you flesh and blood, and it will make you unable to go.

If you don't give up, you can't move forward.

Talking about this is not the benefits of preaching divorce, I just want to tell you--

Marriage or divorce is actually just changing a way of life. There is no right or wrong, no derogation.

People are so short in their lives, just want to make themselves happy.

Marriage is for happiness, so divorce is also for happiness.

All destinations are named in love.

Marriage is optional

But not a must -have

Some time ago, Dad was interesting to see a conversation on the Internet. The daughter asked her mother: "Can you get married?"

Mom said, "If the fireworks outside, the flavor of the neighbor neighbor overflows, and a family on the street holds hands, you can hold back without crying."

The daughter asked:

"Fanfa overflows, who made the rice? Who washed the dishes? Who cleaned up the house? Who coaxed the child to sleep?

"Hold hands? Did you buy the school district house? Who counseled his homework? Is the child obedient?

"I was shopping, eating, and holding the cake I just bought to go home to play games and watch novels. I talked about the little couple who had a unkempt, tired, and took my child to play outside. ","

This reversal surprised Dad.

The times are really different.

There are many friends around Dad. When they go to school, they do not let their children fall in love. When they graduate, as soon as they come, they are urged to find a person to get married, as if getting married like a task.

Many children were forced to make trouble with their parents, or they were unhappy when they were married.

Dad is unwilling to see such a scene, so I did not intervene in your marriage.

Marriage is an option, not a required option.

Love is necessary, but love is not.

For everyone, marriage and love are just part of life.

If you are happy enough now, don't care why you don't have anything else.

Of course, I hope you don't be knocked down by the trivial matter in front of you. I encourage you to be in awe of love and marriage.

However, before choosing a partner, you must remember to polish your eyes.

At the end

The last point is also the most important point.

Dad wants to tell you that you are still very young, you still have a lot of time, you have to allow you to try and error.

Divorce is just a very small and very small hurdle in your life.

You have to be as strong as you were when you were a kid, fell down, got up yourself, patted the soil on your body, and then smiled and set off.

I really like a paragraph that writers have said late:

The test papers in life can be changed to change, and the coating is too messy, at most deducting the score.

Not to mention the change, you can even cheat, make a small copy, peek at the answer of Wang Xiaohua next door, and draw tigers according to cats.

Time is always enough, and the ringtone at the end of the exam will not sound until the last moment of life.

Before that, you have a lot of time to learn and change.

In fact, life is the same.

Some people have a smooth sailing and some people have suffered, but no matter what situation is, people should not lose their courage to love and live.

With your parents, you don't need to play a wife, do not need to play daughter -in -law, and you don't need to play your daughter.

We hope that you can live as yourself and live well.

You can get the greatest degree of freedom, self -esteem, self -reliance, self -love.

Okay, so much, you should dislike your dad again.

In short, don't forget that parents will always be your reliance, and parents will always want you to be happy.

Where there is me and your mother, it is your home.

It's dawn, and Dad will pick you up home.

Love your father forever

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