After watching my son's son is about to remarry, I understand the mother who said 80,000 yuan to buy Rolls -Royce

Author: insight allergy

Treat your children well, but don't give them too much property.

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Let's tell the story of a boy first.

He was born in a rural family in Heze, Shandong. I did n’t like to learn when I was a kid. I took 15 points and 20 points each time.

Fortunately, there is a rich dad. If you don't want to go to school, Dad will coax him with money and let him go to school.

When he was 14 years old, he was too lazy to go to school and dropped out of school.

He thought: It doesn't matter if you don't study, anyway, there is money at home anyway.

His dad's response is also: even if you don't miss it, anyway, my family is rich.

I never thought that I would send my son out to learn a technique.

After dropping out of school, the boy stayed at home every day and played the game day and night.

"You can also plant a land -like daughter -in -law, just after this life."

In this way, the boy had been a little emperor at home for 5 years, and he had fallen from a young man from the tender teenage to the greasy youth.

At the age of 19, before he reached the legal age, his dad arranged a marriage as a plan, and even the gift was prepared for him.

A stack of cash, house, Mercedes -Benz, gold ornaments, spent one million.

But this marriage only maintained for one year, and the ex -wife bluntly said after the divorce:

"I just chose his family history. Which of the reality is this?"

After divorce, he bought clothes and haircuts behind his father, waiting for his father to check out.

Speaking of which, I believe you know who you are, the son of the coat brother Zhu Zhiwen, Zhu Shanwei.

What makes people unexpected is that in less than a year, Zhu Shanwei was exposed to engagement again.

For this marriage, his dad still made a lot of money. On the day of the engagement, send a BMW directly.

Some people say that Zhu Shanwei is lucky. Some dads have been supporting him, not going to school, not working, and not working hard. He can still live well.

Is this really true?

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Let me tell you the story of the next little boy.

The boy was born in a poor small countryside in Ning Township, Hunan, and the ecoles of the adobe houses lived in the villagers collapsed.

His family did not even have a decent furniture, and he was sleeping in a bed of straw.

I ca n’t even buy the practice. I usually wipe the words after writing one book and continue to use it.

Every day after school, other people's children are playing outside, and he is held in the house to do homework.

After dinner, other parents played cards, but his parents accompanied him to study.

Under such difficult conditions, he did not drop out of school or fall, and read Harvard all the way.

He was the first Chinese to speak in Harvard Graduation Ceremony, He Jiang.

There was also a famous director Speelberg who spoke with him.

Recalling his parents' education for him, he said:

"If there is no parent's company and persistence, I guess, like many young partners in childhood, do not study for a few years, and go out to work early."

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There is a "scissors effect" in education.

It is said that when each child is young, there may be only a little difference.

But after a different education method, it eventually led to a huge gap in adulthood.

Parents' different companionship and leadership, the ultimate thing is the future of children.

Zhu Shanwei's father gave the child a good life, but failed to teach him the ability to create life.

Although He Jiang's parents failed to give him an ease and comfortable airport, he inserted him with independent and strong wings.

The difference between the two of them reminds me of the video I saw yesterday.

In the video, a mother has been losing her son's Rolls Royce high imitation, only 80,000 yuan.

It wasn't until four years later that the boy grew up and found that his mother was lying, and his Rolls Royce was true.

The reason why this mother lies is that she does not want to make her son have a sense of superiority from others because of the richness of the family; and she does not want the son to form an inertia that is unreasonable because of the family's richness.

The first sentence of the 25 best concepts published by the American "Business Week" is:

Treat your children well, but don't give them too much property.

Fortune is more wounded, and the life of the child is to live by himself.

If parents blindly raise their children in material, they will raise a giant baby lightly, and they will harm their children throughout their lives.

Remember the farce at a police station in Nanjing?

His father spent millions to allow his son to study abroad. He returned from his son to learn and set up a house and four cars.

Unexpectedly, a "returnee", which was originally a good, shrank at home all day long, and it was 10 years.

My father hated iron, and sold a luxury car he bought for his son in a fierce manner.

After learning about the son, he even smashed his father's car.

In the end, the father and son were not allowed to make friends, and the son even threatened to cut his father.

There is a very hot words on the Internet:

"You think the child is coming to report gratitude, but in fact, it is to reconcile. Raising, you and your child are shareholders, and you are enjoying bonus for the rest of your life; if you raise waste, you and your child are a debt relationship. ","

Children's problems were initially the parents' problems.

At the age of 6, you did not teach your children to draw laces, until he was 20 years old.

But at the age of 20, he was young at the age of the workplace, but he only learned to tie shoes.

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Writer salad is very reasonable in "Special Care and Special Love":

"Chinese parents give their children too little, but too much.

Because the children experienced the difficulties of life from an early age, they did not know how to ask them for the right time, which eventually led them to the hardships of their lives and asked their parents for a lifetime. "

My uncle, an ordinary rural worker, made money very hard. He lived on the construction site all year round. He did not even have a decent toilet, but he gave his son the best material conditions.

Once my little cousin came to my house for dinner. My mother made a lot of cooked dishes and stewed the beef deliberately, but he didn't eat it. He cried and asked my mother to take him to the western restaurant to eat steak.

Say my cousin often takes him.

At that moment, I sighed, my little cousin was afraid that it would be abolished.

Professor Jobo of Nanjing Normal University said:

"This is an era of the rich second generation of the whole people. We have accused the second generation of the second generation of behavior, but in fact, we are all practitioners of the rich second generation."

Now many parents, regardless of their conditions or bad conditions, are trapped in a family education:

No matter how poor you can't get poor education = no matter how poor you can't get poor children.

Even if you have a monthly salary of thousands, you have to bend the backbone of the spine.

Take a child to eat high -end western food, and eat cabbage steamed buns; buy thousands of shoes for children, and do not even want to buy dozens of new clothes.

As a result, the child did not become more advanced.

Like Zhu Shanwei today, he was like a puppet, a numb old man from beginning to end.

Parents depend on the marriage and life.

It's hard to imagine how far he can go without his father's coat brother.

The so -called "raising" is not actually "smashing money to raise", but to make the child very rich.

How can we raise a mental rich child?

1. The "independence" of the rich children

The richest family in the world in the world, the core concept of wealth education pursued is "labor is valuable."

Old Wayon never gave the child pocket money. His child started working to make money, or wipe the floor in the store, or help repair the roof of the warehouse.

Iboson said: "The strongest person in the world is independent people."

Independence is not only confident, but also the courage to face difficulties.

2. The "experience" of raising children

I once watched such a video: 3 am, a 14 -year -old boy played with his mobile phone.

The child's father was not angry, and turned his head to pull him out to the street and vegetable market.

Looking at this group of people who worked hard for life, the son realized that it was not easy for life, and immediately apologized to his father.

Bringing more children to look at the outside world and enriching experience can make children understand the difficulty of their parents, and have a gratitude to everything.

3. The "thought" of raising children

In a 10 square meters of houses in Beijing, a family of three is housing. The son slept in the upper shop, and the couple squeezed in the lower shop.

Many people think that such living conditions are very depressed. But the little boy never complained or crying, but was happy.

Without a TV at home, he read a book. His world did not become narrow and poor because of the environment of the snail house, but because the books were read more, it became broad and abundant.

The real "rich" should be the full cultivation and irrigation of the children's spiritual world.

Reading is the source of children's rich spiritual life. In the book, children find value, broaden their horizons, and enhance their own cultivation.

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Well -known host Liang Jizheng wrote to the child:

"When you grow up, the responsibility I support you has ended. In the future, you have to take a bus or Mercedes -Benz, eat shark fin or fans, and be responsible for yourself."

Really visionary parents, in fact, their hearts are a bit hard, and they will not let their children want prematurely.

Like a praise and encourage all parents.

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