Never live in others' mouths

Reading Yu Hua's "Alive" was very early, and I always wanted to understand: why Fugui can live optimisticly when Fugui has lived after being lonely to live.

It was not until many years later that I realized that the original answer was in the book: "Life belongs to everyone's own feelings, and it does not belong to any other person's opinion."

The world is very large, we are very young, and when we want to live frankly in a big world, we must never live in others' mouths. We must seriously go to the life we ​​want.

If you do n’t admire the good words, you can be humble and forward. You can listen to it if you do n’t believe it.

Many people like to listen to good words, envy others to be praised, and always feel that in the sound of praise, there must be their own light and value.

However, just listening to the good words on the letter may not be able to take a good life.

In the TV series "Happiness to Wanjia", there is such a plot:

In order to be able to win President Liu, Lawyer Wang and Mr. Zhang designed a small episode, and used a trial of a traffic accident to pretend to be a case of the second instance. He attempted to cooperate with his law firm.

During the process of communicating with them, President Liu always smiled, and praised them for being young. His attitude made Lawyer Wang and Attorney Zhang feel that his performance was not flawless and could win the customer.

However, the nice words were placed on the face, and turned back. President Liu went to another law firm to sign the contract. To the old acquaintance, President Liu said: "Young people, want to achieve results, but speculate Fool, it's still not advisable. "

As a matter of course, Lawyer Wang lost the customer of President Liu and caused a series of adverse reactions.

Just listen to good words and do not distinguish between this meaning, it is not advisable for people who are developing and going up.

Good words, as long as people have emotional intelligence and a little kind, they will be willing to say, but in a series of good words, find their own positioning, and know that the "killing" and "crisis" hidden in the good words are everyone in the struggle. The key to pay attention to.

Only by maintaining humility and not admiring words, can the path of life be bound by the three words and two words of others, and can we move towards a more upward life.

The ancient sayings have clouds: "If you want to seize it, you must solidify it; if you want to be abolished, you will be solid;

Many people do n’t know how to identify what the truth is and what is false, just blindly listening to the faith, thinking that what they hear are all the truth, so that they become very arrogant and are extremely unfavorable in the future.

In a forum, I saw a lady's complaint:

"She has been married to her husband for more than two years. The relationship between husband and wife was good, and it was okay to get along with her in -laws. However, since her husband's sister's divorce returned home, her good days have come.

My sister had a big mouth, and always liked to pick her thorn. She was not to sue her husband, and said that the sister -in -law looked down on herself; it was to complain to her in -laws that the sister -in -law would not treat her as a family and disliked her divorce; she even created the contradiction of the family.

Sometimes, when she goes out and goes out, she will go home and go home. The younger sister will say the wind and cool in front of her husband: "Your mother -in -law is going again, and I don't know what wild men are outside."

The younger sister's "Word of Word" in front of her mother -in -law was heard by her husband and in -laws, affecting the relationship between her husband and wife, and also affected her mother -in -law relationship, making her annoying.

Now, every time she goes out, she will be questioned by her husband. Every time she gets along with her in -laws at home, she will become trembling, and her life is very uncomfortable. "

Many people leave a message, the one who commented on the highest comment said:

In fact, as long as a family is provoked, it is easy to have problems. At this time, the test is the ability to not believe family members. Obviously, no one in your in -laws has this ability. They just choose to believe in themselves. Your marriage is a bit dangerous.

indeed so.

In this world, people will inevitably be jealous and criticized, but if everyone can have the ability to say unbelievable, they can identify what is true and what is false. You can make life better.

Social human beings live in this world, and they will always be compared with their origin, choice, and achievements.

But life is always your own. If you are not afraid of others, and living yourself, it is the attitude of every struggler.

In Nanping Ancient Village, there was a pair of dingike couples who opened a homestay in the mountains. In the long years, they did not listen to the evaluation of others, and chose a different way of living.

More than 20 years ago, after graduating from college, like thousands of people, they chose to enter the software engineering industry to work solidly.

Fate allowed the two of them to enter the same foreign company, and successfully opened a life that belonged to their encounters.

14 years after the software engineer, they chose to resign and took the dog baby at home to Nanping Ancient Village to do a homestay.

In the age when they were married, they had to have children, but they did not choose to have children, but decided to make "Dink".

Many friends and loved ones are very small, and even those who are not so familiar with them also laughed at them that they could not give birth to children and cannot be born. They all laughed.

They chose to escape the hustle and bustle of the city and live the lives of rural people. At first, many people said they were stupid and did stupid things.

However, they are "lonely". In the past ten years of rural life, they come to enjoy all flowers in spring. Although there are always some voices around them to refute them, when they are tenth anniversary of their rural life, they say:

"We listen, observe, feel, practice, and follow the rhythm of all things around, and slowly find our own rhythm. Our rural life is becoming more and more abundant, full and interesting."

During the journey of life, everyone has their own choices. Everyone's choice will be regarded as discussion by others. Some people are criticized, some are puzzled, some criticize, and some people laugh.

Although people are awesome, but for us, we are not afraid of others. Because of this, we can strengthen our inner choices and create our values ​​and achievements in our life tracks.

Only when we are not afraid of people, can we have the courage to make a one -inch and have true self -expression.

It is our confidence to not be afraid of people. We believe that with our own hands, we can create our world; not fearful words are our confidence, we can be firm, stormy, and in the rumors. Essence

Under the light, dream of being humble and forward, never live in others' mouths. When the sun and the moon are long, everything is expected.

The years are like songs, and time is flying. Please look forward to Fang Fang's firmness. You must never live in others' mouths. When the willow is dark and the spring flowers bloom, you and I will be comfortable because of unbelief.

The world is lively and warm and warm. Please take out the courage to live out of yourself. You must never live in the mouth of others. When you leave the winter, you will be free because you are not afraid of others.

Light [Look at], I hope that you and I will not live in the mouth of others, joy and victory.

Author | Ji Fang | 9 Xin, the post -90s Xiangnan girl, wrote the heart painting sound to see the world.

Picture | Visual China

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