Don't overdraw your relationship with anyone

I have seen such a sentence in "Good Lonely", and feels quite reasonable:

"People and people, like two kingdoms, should maintain a wide, natural and moderate territory. Even between the boundaries, there must be a neutral zone."

Indeed, the beginning of people's alienation is often:

You can splurge our feelings at will, I am free of each other's relationship, and you and I have lost the original size and respect.

On the road of long life, only if you do not sell human feelings, your feelings can last for a long time; if you live up to people's hearts, the relationship can be growing up.

Therefore, you must always remember, don't overdraw your relationship with anyone.

The feelings of adults have a quota

The emotions between people are like deposits. Once they are overdrawn, each other's feelings will fade, and even this will be broken.

No matter how deep the humanity is, you can't help splurge on the day; the relationship that is close, but he can't be able to use any overdraft.

Some time ago, my cousin suddenly sent a circle of friends:

"Ten years of friends, once strangers. From then on, you have taken your Yangguan Dao, I have passed my alone wooden bridge.

I hurriedly asked her what happened.

She said that she not only drew the girlfriend who had been dating for ten years, but also stunned her out of her home.

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When I heard the news, I was shocked: How could the two be good at you and me before, why did they make trouble?

I have known her for many years and worked hard in Beijing with deep feelings, but since she was unemployed, the whole person seemed to have changed since the year ago.

Every time I meet, I want me to find a job for her, or to find me to borrow money. In order to save expenses, I also retreated the rented house and moved to live with me.

As a result, she did not find her work after she came in. She brushed a short video at home every day, so large to rent, and small for takeaway meals. All the expenses of the two were supported by me alone.

Friends are difficult to help, and help should be, but just two days ago, she brought the two female friends who I didn't know completely to the house. I planned to stay long. I'm really tired!

In the end, she smiled and asked me: "Because of these things and friends who have been dating for ten years, will you think I am particularly selfish?"

I thought about it and sent this passage:

"Without rejection, there is no completeness; without farewell, there is no encounter. Stay away from friends who continue to consume each other's feelings can meet the confidant who really precious your relationship."

Life is alive, all feelings have a quota.

When accumulating a humanity, the love between you and me is one inch; the relationship between overdraft, the feelings in each other's hearts are three points.

All overdrafts are in the dark, the price is in the dark

On Douban, there is a group called "intimate relationship phobia", which is particularly incisive:

"Although human feelings are good, they cannot be abused; no matter how deep the relationship is, it is not appropriate to overdraft."

Excessive overdraft relationship is like a bubble that is on the verge of crushing.

If the relationship is much more overdraft, the feelings will fade unknowingly.

All overdrafts in the feelings have been in the secret price.

I have seen such a story in the book, and I am very impressed.

In a small town, there is a young man who sells silk.

He was determined to start with the sale of silk, so he sold it diligently every day.

When drinking with a friend, how unique the clothes are in the shop; when reuniting with relatives, the quality of the fabrics is not as good as the quality of the fabric.

At first, in order to support him, friends and relatives would buy more or less.

But the price of silk is quite high. After buying it once or twice, everyone rarely bought it.

Young people are very distressed: the cost of opening the store is there, how can no one buy it?

He thought about it, Lingguang now: Since it cannot be open source, it will be cherished!

So he had the idea of ​​silk raw materials -replacing the original high -priced silk with inferior silk to reduce costs.

Later, he told his friends who took care of his business before that in order to thank everyone for his support, he decided to give everyone an unprecedented discount price.

After hearing this, everyone was convinced that they went to his shop to buy, and the silk was quickly snatched.

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Young people made a lot of money. When they were happy, their friends came to return one by one.

It turned out that everyone found that his cloth quality was not as good as before, and even if it was given a discount price, it was not worth it.

Others in the town did not dare to come to his shop to consume after learning about this, and soon he went bankrupt.

The friends who were consumed again and again were also interrupted with him.

There is never a shortage of overdrafts like this young man in the world.

They regarded relatives and friends as a ticket in the fame and fortune.

Today, I asked Sangu to contact a big brother. Tomorrow, I asked Liu Po ​​to introduce an opportunity.

They treat their friends as customers in the business field.

When making a product, tell you a little bit expensive, do not lose money, and talk to you when you sell insurance, you are unpredictable in life, the world is full of friendship, and your heart is full of business.

Long -term relationships require the balance of saving emotions

Some time ago, there was a hot topic on Weibo: How can we maintain a long -term relationship?

In the comment area, a netizen answered only 6 words, but deeply touched me:

"Savings emotional balance."

There is an emotional account between people, only consumption without storage, the balance of emotions will be zero.

Only store and less consumption, the account of the relationship can overflow.

Therefore, the relationship that does not overdraft is reliable, and the feelings of often saving can be kept.

In my hometown, there is such a pair of friends.

At the time of gathering, a money paid for dinner, one had to pay for the movie.

On weekdays, one helped a little busy, and one would give some gifts.

The two are always polite and polite, and the guests are atmospheric, and they are "sparse" as if they are not friends.

But such a pair of cold friends who seem to have no friendship have been intersecting for 38 years.

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Not only did they have never had any contradictions, but their feelings were extremely deep, and they became confidants of each other.

When asked about the secrets of the relationship, one of them said:

Do not consume humanity with things that can be solved; it is not busy with interests.

Do not overdraw the relationship between each other, do n’t treat your friends as a fool, your feelings can naturally last long.

In recent years, the older the age, the more good the relationship is, the "emotional balance of savings".

Only by not random overdrafts and blocking business outside of human feelings can we keep the purest relationship between each other;

Only when you often save emotional balances and digest fame and fortune in the hearts of the people can you keep the most sincere feelings deep in your heart.

I like a word very much:

"Live up to people's hearts, not selling human feelings, is the highest state of life."

The most sober way for adults is not to overdraw your relationship with anyone.

In contact with others, you must always remember:

Don't sell people at the expense of people's hearts;

For the rest of your life, I hope you will not squander your feelings at will, and do not have an overdraft relationship.

Keep the degree and respect in interaction, and retain long -term feelings and relationships.

Pay attention to "readers" and encourage friends.

Author: Jingxing, read the author at 10 o'clock. Source: ten o'clock reading (ID: duhaoshu).

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