Dare to turn your face to these 3 people, your life will get better and better

As the saying goes: "Being a person to leave a line, you will meet in the future."

In this principle of life, we often feel that turning our face is the lowest -level behavior.

As everyone knows, many misfortunes in life are precisely because we lack the courage to turn our face.

You know, not everyone is worth our face.

Dare to turn your face to the following three people, your life will get better and better.

In life, we often hear such voices:

How big, forbearance passes; a little greater, don't be so stingy; if you are an adult, what to do with children ...

Obviously you are the victim, but in the end it becomes unreasonable.

A fluttering sentence, I erased the damage you suffered.

If you choose to forgive, it is you who are in pain in the end.

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She was thrown in her grandma's house by her parents since she was a child, picked up the old clothes of others, and was beaten every day. She had a happy day.

After growing up, she worked hard and gave all the money she earned.

Once, she wanted to open a shop and asked her to get money. The mother gave her 80,000, saying that she was lent to her.

She couldn't get angry and made trouble with her mother, because these years she gave the family more than 80,000 money.

Relatives persuaded her, after all, she was a mother, don't make too much trouble.

No way, she can only make money by herself and return the money to her mother.

Later, one year, her brother engaged in online loan, and she lent 130,000 to her brother.

The following year, she just caught up with her pregnancy. She was worried that she would not spend enough money. She hoped that her brother could return her 10,000.

As a result, not only did she get a penny, her parents also forced her to move the hukou and cut off the relationship with her.

When she was about to give birth to a child, relatives came over to persuade her to open a little, and wanted to open up, and persuaded her to reconcile with her parents.

She said that even if all relatives cut off their relationship with her, she could not forgive me.

She knew clearly that after forgiveness, the only endless squeezing was waiting for her.

In psychology, there is a word called "projection effect".

It means that people tend to perceive others according to what kind of people they are, rather than consciousness according to the real situation of the observer.

Because of this, people often only see the appearance of things.

Those who persuade you to persuade you not to understand the real situation are not really thinking about you.

They will only stand at the high point of morality, under the banner of justice, and advise to do what seemingly "correct".

They don't consider your feelings, let alone soothe your wounds.

Their kindness is just a kind of false compassion.

As the saying goes, do not persuade others to be good without being suffering from others.

In this world, there has never been a real feeling.

Only by obeying our wishes and not changing with the will of others can we get true freedom.

I once asked my friend Ye Ye: "What are you most afraid of?"

She said: "I am most afraid of being exposed to scars, and the embarrassment of indifference makes me feel that the whole world is joking me!"

When she was a child, Ye Ye's family had poor conditions, because she could not pay tuition on time, and she was often found by the class teacher.

One day, Ye Ye asked his father to find rich people in the village to borrow money to help her pay tuition.

My father told her that after a while, I could pay the tuition for the house collecting rice.

Ye Ye was unwilling to wait, and he made trouble with his father.

His father accidentally threw the towel on her face and left a blood outlet.

This incident was only the same classmate Xiao Jin knew that she had never thought about it, but she was promoted in the class.

When seeing everyone's ridicule and contempt, Ye Ye was so ashamed that she couldn't even lift her head, and this became a scar that could not erase her heart.

Many years later, at a classmate party, Xiao Jin mentioned the matter again, and said it as if he was talking about jokes. Ye Ye's face was dark.

After the party, Ye Ye Guo made Xiao Jin black, she said:

"I am no longer a little girl at that time. For those who don't respect me, there is no need to communicate at all!"

Everyone has something to mention in their hearts, perhaps a moment of wolf, or maybe a painful past.

They are scars of our heart scabs, and they are pain that others can't feel.

No one knows how they heal, so we are afraid that they will be revealed again and again.

Every time it is revealed, it is a secondary damage to us.

Many people who expose scars always advertise themselves to speak straight. In fact, they just don't want to think about the feelings of others.

Perhaps because you don't care and disrespect, you will come out casually if you expose the scars.

They don't know that once the scars are revealed, they often touch the flesh, causing blood to be dripping.

The person who was exposed to scars had to bear the pain again, and even took a long time to make the wound crust again.

Getting along with such people is tantamount to leaving a knife at our hearts.

You can never predict, when he will say what you need to expose your scars, poke your pain, hurt you invisible.

For such a person, we must stay away.

When necessary, roll the face happily is the greatest protection of yourself.

I often listen to people that the most important thing is to have a bottom line.

Without the bottom line, your tolerance, kindness, and forbearance are indulgent for others.

In this world, not all the problems can take a step back. Sometimes, it may be that other people's inch.

For those who touch our bottom line, turning our face is the most direct way we show the bottom line. Mu Yange, a best -selling writer, told such a story.

A girl, when she just graduated from college, went to work through the introduction of others.

However, the department manager did not like her, and always made her difficult to make her, sending her to do the bitter difference between no one wants to do.

She was tossed to be miserable and wanted to resign, but considering that it was not easy to find a job, she had to bear it.

I never thought that the manager became intensified.

On one occasion, he lost one of his documents, and as a result, he appeared "coincidentally" in the girl's office, so he took the opportunity to find a girl to "talk".

The girl couldn't bear it anymore, and turned her face directly. She said to the manager:

"Before investigating the truth of the matter, I hope you don't slander me.

First of all, I did not take the time and motivation of your file;

Secondly, you have no rights without permission and the items of employees;

In the end, everyone is the same working hours, but the workload you arrange for me is several times more than other colleagues. This is unreasonable. I reserved the right to appeal to the company. "

After her noise, the manager slowly converged.

Since then, the girl has done a lot of high -quality projects with her own ability. She not only won the respect of the manager, but even the company's president did not forget to encourage her a few words.

Feng Jicai wrote in the "Bottom Line":

"Human confidence is based on the bottom line, with a bottom line, at least at the level of 'people', and has gained a successful self and successful life."

The bottom line is not only the basic guidelines for our human beings, but also the critical point that others cannot touch easily.

It is like the water level in the river. If you concession blindly, it will only get us in the mud.

This society determines our value, not how humble our attitude towards others, but how strong our ability is.

Therefore, don't make yourself a person with too low cost.

Dare to turn your face and keep the bottom line can give us everything we want.

someone said:

In our era, the most important thing is the two capabilities, the first is called offensive capabilities; the second is called flying ability.

What is the offensive ability is that the knife is in your hands.

What is the ability to fly, that is, the knife is in the opponent's hands, but you have a pair of wings. No matter how the other party hurts you, you can enter another dimension when you pat your wings.

Whether you have a knife or wings, these are your confidence of your face.

If you want to have these two abilities, first of all, you have to do strong yourself.

· Improve skills

Efforts to improve your skills and "turn your face" with your ability. Your hard power is your weapon.

·Expand horizons

When your vision becomes broad, you can quickly see the whole picture of things, and then help you cut it around.

· Change thinking

The most heart -up truth in this society is to be harsh on the weak and tolerance for the strong.

The biggest difference between the weak and the strong is the difference in thinking.

Change your own thinking is the key to becoming a strong.

The strong may not be the smartest person, but it must be the fastest response, and solving the problem is naturally decisive and decisive.

Some people may say that turning his face is a manifestation of bad temper.

But for those who persuade you to be generous, expose your scars, and touch your bottom line, turn your face is the fastest way to solve the problem.

It can let you show your attitude and position as soon as possible, and at the same time allow you to better defend a basic right in interpersonal communication -respected.

In the second half of your life, I hope you will become stronger, no matter when and wherever you, you can choose "turn your face".

At the same time, I also hope that you can be gently treated by this world!

Author | Cake, Pen Ink Paper Paper, Chai Mei Yanyan, first -hand text, one -handed life.

Picture | Visual China

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