Nearly 80 % of the college students interviewed believed that there was no confession love.

China Youth Network, Beijing, September 23 (Reporter Li Huaxi) It is said that love needs a sense of ritual, especially at the beginning of love, many couples use confession to determine love relationships. So, is there a love that is not confession? Some people say that it is not considered. If love does not confess, the other party cannot confirm that it is true to each other, and feels that this relationship is unknown; others think that confession is just a ritual. The two are really together. clear.

Recently, the China Youth Network Campus News Agency launched a questionnaire survey on the topic of "love without confession", and a questionnaire survey for 10,230 college students across the country. The results show that 7998 people choose not to count, accounting for 78.18%; Compared with 21.82%.

"If there is no confession in love, the other party can’t confirm that it is sincere in love, and I feel that this relationship is unknown."

Henan University Student Ma Shanshan believes that the love that does not confess is not a love. She said that in love, she needs to confess, because only confession can confirm the relationship. If one party does not want to confirm the relationship with the other, it will not confess, and one party cannot confirm whether the other party is really in love. "If it is just ambiguous, the injured must be a sincere person, so I think confession is necessary."

"I think before the two people are together, the key lies in confession." Malanshan believes that many girls will care about the sense of ritual in their feelings. She felt that there was no confession in love, and it proved that she had no sincerity about this relationship. "If she does not confess, she feels unknown in love. If I continue to maintain it, I think I will break up unclearly."

Yu Haoqing, a college student of Zhejiang University, also believes that the love that does not confess is not a love. He believes that without confession means that the two sides have no clear attitude, the attitude is not firm, and the relationship will not be strong.

"Confession is just a ritual. The two are really together, and they understand each other without speaking."

"Confession is the so -called form of expressing the inner thoughts." Hubei college student Zhou Lili believes that love without confession is also love. When the two people fully understand each other and they are really willing to be together, they speak without words. They understand each other. Confession.

For example, Zhou Lili said that her parents met each other at first, and they did not confess. They rarely expressed their love in words in more than ten years, but both knew and loved each other and met each other. "Words can be proved by action, so it is not necessary to say anything."

Zhang Yuzheng, who is also studying in Hubei universities, also agreed with Zhou Lili's point of view. He believes that many feelings are not paved with flowers. The confession is just a ritual, and it can be considered a love in the next life.

"I think it's okay to confess this ritual." Zhang Yuzheng said that the confession is the "charge" that declares victory, not a notice to fall in love. "If it is needed by girls, I will prepare this when the relationship is mature The confession, rather than rashly confessing as soon as it was exposed to a period of time. "

Zhang Yuzheng thought that if he didn't think about it, did not really understand each other, or confessed in the case of immature timing. If successful, there will be higher trial and error costs and costs; if it fails, it may lose a better interpersonal relationship or a friend.

Expert: Love without confession is love, but confession is also important

Cai Yuxuan, full -time teachers, registered psychologists, and national second -level psychological counselors of Hubei University of Technology, believes that those who have experienced the limits of the ambiguous period can experience that taste. And the confession is a way to break the ambiguous layer of window paper, so that both parties in love can find a sense of certainty.

"I think there is no confession love." He analyzed that because different couples were together. For example, some people are friends or classmates who have known each other for a long time. Both parties have a strong foundation of emotional and understand each other. This is the source of security. "In a sense, confession is more like a ritual, and this ritual can be diluted for some couple relationships. You can set up a framework without that."

Since there is no confession love, is it not important if it is confession? Cai Yuxuan's answer is also important. He said that confession is a better way for more couples. Because there are not so many young plums, they have understood and trust each other since childhood.

He believes that more couples are gradually understanding in life. At this time, they will feel heartbeat because of the other party's words and some behaviors. They can also feel that the other party also has a good impression on themselves, but this is unstable or solid. of.

Cai Yuxuan explained that men and women in the ambiguous period will always find some evidence of "the other party should like themselves", but there will also be some evidence that "the other party does not seem to like themselves". "No confession is a sense of certainty and security for many people, even if 99%of I have determined that the other party likes myself, but what if I?"

He concluded that life needs a sense of ritual, and the process of passing a confession will give this relationship a sense of ritual, and it will also feel that the status of the other person's mind is very important, and it also has a memorable day.

Understand the importance of confession, so how to confess more appropriate? Cai Yuxuan suggested that first of all, choose a proper place. Love has a typical characteristic of privacy, so confession in the large court is not a proper place. For example, the network term "ten moves" is produced in such occasions. He believes that this atmosphere does move the other side, but the movement does not mean like, but will make the confession side have an invisible pressure, whether it is acceptable or refused to carry pressure. Secondly, a carefully prepared moment. He said that a special day, a little special preparation, and a special gift can be a careful moment. It does not mean that it is grand. It is a color that adds to the original life, and it is also a link to maintain the relationship between the two people.

Finally, there are appropriate words. Cai Yuxuan believes that different people express different ways of love. Some people like to go straight to the theme, and some people are more inclined to be implicitly euphemistic. "So the important thing to confess is not to resign, but whether your emotions are expressed in a sincere respect."

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