When people reach middle age, put away your ruler

Author: Insight · Annabe Su

The more things you experience, the smaller the prejudice to the world.

Revisiting "The Story of Qi Qi" a while ago was quite touched by a paragraph of Fu Shier.

She said that she was distressed for a while because she always wanted others to act at her own standards.

Later, it gradually understood that it was more important than "discipline" others.

Growth is that you will eventually find that anyone in the world has his own way of living.

When people reach middle age and put away their feet in their hearts.

One person starts to mature, that is, no longer forcibly to change anyone, nor judge himself with the standards of others.

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Putting up the ruler of the Truth: You may not understand the hardships of others. Many years ago, there was a massage shop downstairs.

A single mother, with her 6 -year -old daughter, is said to be from a foreign country.

Women are silent and perseverance. They are greeted every day and greeted guests silently.

What about the little girl, I do n’t talk much about it, always sitting on the stool in front of the door to do homework.

At the beginning, people were curious about the origin of the mother and daughter. After a long time, they began to discuss.

Saying why this woman was not guarding the woman, she was abandoned by her husband. He also said that she opened such a shop, and did not know what to do in the ground.

However, the fact is not what people speculate.

The woman's husband was a alcoholic, and he scolded the mother and daughter. The woman could not bear it. She took the child to leave her hometown and came to this small town.

Her massage shop is nothing more than some massage.

However, people only believe in their imagination, no matter what the facts behind them.

I have seen a story on Zhihu.

After getting off work every day, a man must secretly change to high school school uniforms in the toilet, don't put on a pink hair clip.

Someone hit him and scolded him neuropathy, distortion.

In fact, the truth of the incident is that the man's sister died in a car accident. The exciting mother was unforgivable. I only remember what the sister looked like when she was in high school.

Men look like a sister every day, call a video with her mother, and coax her mother.

There is a saying that you can never really understand a person, unless you put on his shoes and walk around.

Put away the ruler of self -evaluation and put away your arrogance and prejudice.

You may not know the pain of others; you may not be able to appreciate the tears of others.

If you live happily and have never heard of the crying of the world, at least do not evaluate and arrogantly others' lives.

Just as the lines in "Ode to Joy", you can have different opinions, but there is no right to throw stones.

Yu Ji, this is cultivation; Yu people, this is compassion.

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Putting up the ruler of comparison: Life is your own and has nothing to do with others. I have told a Curvry Bird's story in the video number before.

They are very petite, but the nests built are dozens of times larger than themselves.

The reason is that if a few emerald birds are put together, they will compare each other and build a larger nest than other birds until they are exhausted.

Why aren't we in our lives?

We always take the ruler of others and measure our lives, but ignore the happiness that can be obtained at hand.

The hit drama "Come on! Qin Wei played by Hai Lu in "Mother", and her husband is a college student who came out of the countryside. The family resources are scarce, and everything can only be rely on himself.

The two went to the city to work hard, relying on the rent of the house, they hung their daughters' accounts in their relatives, and their children were able to enter the local gold medal kindergarten to study.

Although life is tight, the family lives well and happy.

However, when he met a group of Mrs. Bao's mother, Qin Wei began to be unbalanced.

Obviously, the full -time wife of ordinary families must be aligned with Mrs. Kuo.

When someone drove a luxury car to pick up the child, she also lied that she had an entrepreneurial CEO husband, and she had a special car pick -up every day.

In order to buy school district houses, she ignored the economic situation of her family, and as a result, she was trapped in a loan trap, so that the family who had not wealthy was even worse.

Qin Wei did not realize that he and her husband had no resources and no background, and it was not easy to stand in a big city.

If you walk step by step, your life will definitely improve.

It was her desire to make her live in the abyss.

People will gradually discover that life is their own and have nothing to do with others.

Putting up the comparison ruler is to let go of the self that is always blindly chasing.

As stated, "No matter how gorgeous the shoes of others, wearing it on their feet, it may not be appropriate; if the bowls of others are exquisite, it may not be appropriate."

The significance of growth lies in gradually seeing what you want and what you can have.

Always stomach to your toes, you will be disappointed after all, and you will be tired.

At the moment, An Shou's life is the most rare sober of middle -aged people.

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Putting down the ruler: The real maturity is the three views of respect for others. One issue of "Thirteen Invitations", Xu Zhiyuan asked Professor Liu Qing. After the age of age, what would happen to your thoughts?

The professor said, "I used to think, ah, how can this person be like this and how can that person be like that. At the age, the older life began to feel that there is a hundred attitudes in life, and you must be able to accept the different views of others and the way of thinking. ","

I used to have a very good friend. He had a good family and pursued poetry and far away.

I came from poverty and saved money every day. The biggest wish is to save money to buy a house. Every time he meets, he will say that I am too secular and don't understand the true meaning of life.

However, how did he know how many cities and moved through a dozen times? Oversized until the middle of the night, and went home to find that the luggage was thrown at the door by the landlord. What did it feel?

My friends may not be wrong, but we live a completely different life.

When people were young, they looked at the world in a single way. They always felt that everything was natural.

Only when your peaks have gone through, will you know how to respect every kind of life from the bottom of this gap.

Sanmao's life, romantic and casual, wandering around.

Friends Cai Zhizhong is steady and calm, and likes to create closed doors.

The two have different lifestyles, but they have never tried to mix and change each other's lives.

San Mao appreciates Cai Zhizhong's talent, and will write a preface for his new book. When San Mao's economy is in a hurry, he will sell a house. Cai Zhizhong is going to buy it silently for her.

The two respect each other and seek the same differences in each other, and their friendship was once passed on to talk about it.

Fu Shier once said that the progress of the concept is to respect everyone's value sorting and life choices.

The ruler of correction is to overcome your sense of superiority and put away your desire to show off.

People are alive, just send their own light, do not need to light up for others.

People who are truly mature will allow all flowers to bloom, allowing small grass to have its spring.

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Russell once said, "The difference is the source of happiness."

In this world, there is never a ruler, which can exhaust everyone's lives.

When people reach middle age, the more things they experience, the smaller the prejudice against the world.

I don't get used to it very little, I can understand a lot.

Like a praise, do not blame others, do not seek for yourself, and live more and more transparent.

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