The older the older?What are we misunderstanding of "elderly people"

Author: Tang Yicheng

When it comes to getting old, we often think of "weakness, illness, loneliness" and so on, and I feel very worried. In fact, we have many cognitive misunderstandings about the elderly. This article will help you re -understand the elderly from a psychological perspective and share the way to get a good old age.

Aging may be a concept of being instilled

Perhaps the phenomenon of aging does not exist at all. Harvard psychologist Allen Lange is a professor of psychology at Harvard University and the first woman to receive a professor at the Department of Psychology at Harvard University. She did an interesting study. She asked the two groups of elderly people to live in a "space -time capsule" they arranged, and this place was completely arranged according to the appearance of 20 years ago. ——In the 1950s, newspapers, music, movies, and scenarios. The only difference between the two groups is that one group of people must work hard to "pretend" to live in 1959 and express it in modern times; the other group can use the past, they discuss what happened in 1959 in a nostalgic way. A week later, the vision, hearing, memory, and blood pressure of the two groups improved greatly. What's more interesting is that the group pretending to be better in the old man in 1959, and even a few elderly people played football. Although this study caused a lot of doubts. But it is certain that these elderly people have made corresponding cooperation by believing that they are 20 years younger within a week. It can be seen that although aging is a normal physiological process, aging may be an instilling concept to some extent. The weakness, helplessness, and illness of the elderly are often a kind of acquisition and helplessness. This phenomenon helps improve the life of the elderly.

At the same time, the definition of seniles has gradually changed with the development of the times. WaveMaker, an international research institution, conducted in -depth interviews with middle -aged and elderly people living in more than 2,000 first to third -tier cities in China. They will think that people will not be able to enter middle age until the age of 49. Until the age of 66, they can be regarded as old age. In other words, less than 49 years old are young people, less than 66 years old, and they are middle -aged. The official definition of middle -aged people is over 40 years old, and the definition of the elderly is over 60 years old. In this phenomenon, WaveMaker named it called "Breaking Lydesy."

In fact, the "old -fashioned procrastination" implies that the concept of may be deconstructed may also be deconstructed. 58%of the respondents in Wavemaker's surveys believe that their psychological age is less than the actual age, and 33%of people think they are thinking that they are themselves. The appearance is also less than the actual age. They are very confident and optimistic about their health, and nearly 60%think that their bodies are good or very good. In other words, middle -aged and elderly people believe that the age threshold of "middle -aged" and "elderly" needs to be redefined, or it may be that the conditions for material life are getting better and better, so that they can maintain vigorously in both physical or mental strength. Vitality.

You may not guess ... the elderly are easier to feel happy

Perhaps this conclusion will refresh your cognition -people are happier after aging. Psychologists have done a follow -up experiment. The age of the experiment is ranging from 18 to 94. Researchers will give each research object a call, allowing them to carry them within a week within a week. In this week, they will be randomly called 35 times and then say the mood at the time. This tracking is updated every 5 years. As a result, it was found that compared to young people, the anxiety, depression, and anger of the elderly were more, and more when they were happy. Since aging does not make the elderly unhappy, it is better to find ways to make their lives happier than paying attention to their pain.

What's more interesting is that the elderly can get more pleasure in sexual life. Researchers from the University of Indiana also found that with the improvement of age, people can also get pleasure in sex. They found that women were more able to reach orgasm in sex when they were 40-50 years old at the age of 20-30. This may be that with the age and time of getting along, both partners know and respect each other's preferences. At the same time, most elderly people have a high satisfaction with sexual life. Research from the University of California San Diego found that more than 60%of the elderly women (the average age of the sample) are satisfied with their sexual life. And nearly 70%of people said they could always reach orgasm.

Of course ... it is also a risk of physical and mental risk -the oligopae effect

You may often hear such a thing: the relatives of my hometown have died, and the TA's wife also left. This situation is not an example, but the embodiment of WidowHood Effect. The oligoral effect is also called "heartbreak syndrome", which means that after the death of the elderly (the object of most related research is the person over 50 years old), the risk of his death has increased sharply after his long -term partner died. Especially within three months after the death of the partner, the risk of death of the elderly will nearly doubled. The reason why the oligoral effect occurs is that the loss of long -term spouse means the drama of life. Some studies have shown that losing a spouse is the most stressful life event, and then divorce, move, suffer from major diseases and unemployment. The elderly couples have been with each other for a long time. They have experienced many difficulties and closer to them together. At the same time, after taking care of their sick husbands to the death of their wife, the social activities of the elderly will be reduced, which makes their pain nowhere. Therefore, the elderly couple will be more sad after losing their spouse. There is also a difference in gender effects, and it is more difficult for elderly men to adapt after the widow. Men are less helpful to others after the widowed. This "self -reliance" attitude prevents them from recognizing their emotional feelings and also prevented them from seeking help from family, friends or professionals. "And women are not only willing to seek the help of others, but also easier to find people who have similar experiences to themselves. Therefore, for the old people of the widow, they need to help the TAs to establish social relations. The role model includes accepting your sadness and the difficulties facing reality.

How to spend a happy old age?

Improving the quality of life in old age requires creativity. Studies have shown that creative expressions are closely related to positive aging, mainly with three main reasons: sense of control, social participation, and brain plasticity. In the process of creation, we will experience the feeling of mastering a new thing. The process of creation usually not only contains social participation, but for the brain, it can change the formation of new synapses to enhance brain reserves. At the same time, we can try to contact people of different ages, which helps to break our single, one -sided, and negative impression of our aging. When we become more familiar with the changes in life, our views on aging will become more comprehensive and complex. When fear and anxiety weaken, the behavior of aging will also tend to become more flexible and active. Finally, as the saying goes, "drinking water full of water" is really not just talking. A research on Harvard University, which spans 80 years, shows that intimacy is the reason why people are happy for life. These bonds can protect people from life dissatisfaction, help delay their physical and mental recession, and better predict people's longevity And happy life.

Looking forward to we can live a life of old -fashioned, old -fashioned, and old -fashioned, so that our old age will become the most precious gift in life.

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