The happiest mode of getting along with the family: pretending to be deaf, dumb, blind

Tolerant more, less blame, less blame,

The hearts of each other can be closer.

Author: LEYLA

The media person Li Yueliang, an interview in the early years, was a pair of old couples.

The two elderly people are 70 years old. They have been married for nearly 50 years. They are very affectionate and loving. They also have a daughter who is studying abroad.

The old man had white hair, but his eyes were innocent and romantic; grandma was dignified and elegant, and there was always a ray of smiles in the eyebrows.

As a result, Li Yueliang envied the wonderful recipe for the two to run the family.

The two old people said a lot, but the summary was a sentence:

Deaf pretending to be dumb and confused, and we will be considerate to take care of the overall situation. A family will naturally go better.

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The bad words to the partner, pretend to be deaf

I have heard such a sentence: "A happy marriage is inseparable from a deaf man."

Deafness is not to refuse communication, but a wisdom that gets along with each other, making big things small and small things.

Former CEO Wang Xiaochuan told the story between his parents.

Wang Xiaochuan's mother graduated from Peking University and is a talented person.

Because of cleverness, it is always high to require things around them.

In the eyes of Wang Xiaochuan, the mother did things more realistic, and it was not pleasing to see anything.

The most impressive scene of Wang Xiaochuan was that her mother scolded behind her father. Where did her father go?

If you do something wrong, you have to say a few words; something is not in his heart, and you have to count.

Several times, Wang Xiaochuan was scared, but in the face of this situation, his father never became angry and never returned.

He was always pretending to hear his mother's chattering, waiting for the mother to calm down, and then laughed.

Therefore, every time you see a great uproar at home, he can always be cleverly resolved by his father's silent wisdom.

Later, Wang Xiaochuan lamented in an interview that his mother's picky made him excellent, but his father's tolerance gave him a happy home.

In the marriage, there is no perfect partner, and one party is a little bit normal.

If the other party always cares about, the days will change from noisy to fall.

Tolerant and less blame, we can get closer to each other.

Those who have watched "The Story of the Wonderful" know that Fu Shier is impatient and likes to talk.

After her husband, Liu and her married, also discovered her temper.

Sometimes Fu Shouer picked up the old Liu to pick three, such as having abandoning his belly, and disappointing him to cook as delicious than others' husbands.

Lao Liu heard it, just smiled slightly, and never kept heart.

Even if she speaks unpleasant and small, he can pretend to be the same.

Because he distressed Fu Shier from the inside, tolerant her bad temper.

Lao Liu's philosophy of doing things is confirming that sentence: "Quarry requires two people, and only one person stops quarrel."

The so -called white head is old, there is no trick, but when one person chatter, the other can be disappointed.

Think about the good of each other in everything, tolerant each other's shortcomings, and the relationship can go on for a long time and warmth.

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The personality of the children is occasionally dumb

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When his son was 16 years old, he especially liked to wear various holes of jeans.

Bao Sanle was very unaccustomed to this. He was a cultural person for several generations, and his son was dressed like this.

As a result, he always blame his son.

See what you look like! What is the difference between the hooligan.

However, every time these words say, they will usher in the anger and resistance of my son.

As a result, while the relationship between the father and son became farther and farther, the atmosphere of the family was increasingly depressed.

Until one day, when Bao Sanle turned over the closet, he saw the flared pants he was worn when he was young.

He only remembered his adolescent himself, and he was not pleasing to the eye by his parents.

In fact, I was just so fresh at the time and pursuing fashion.

As a result, he no longer followed the child and kept talking.

Every time he saw his son's strange dress, he no longer pointed out, but chose to shut up.

Surprisingly, when he stopped accusing endlessly, the relationship between father and son became a lot of intimacy, and his son also visible to the naked eye.

Thinking of a saying on the Internet: "The best parent -child relationship in the world is not established by preaching and numbers."

Sometimes, a proper silence can be closer to each other compared to the rejuvenation of the heights.

The daughter of the writer Liu Ye likes staying up late, driving party, and wearing a navel dress, but he never interfered.

Liu Ye said: "Stay up late to party, then let it go. When the spirit is sluggish the next day, she naturally knows that she will go to bed early;

It doesn't matter if you wear a dew -umbilical outfit, you naturally know that you need to wear more.

In major events, I keep the principle, and I never restricted in trivial matters. "

Although the family has the closest relationship, it is different individuals.

You have your idea, I have my preference, it is normal.

Good family education is not authoritative or supreme, nor is it scolding and suppression, but to know how to respect and tolerate each other.

Do a "dumb" in a timely manner, swallow silently, give your family a free and considerate, and get along with each other to be comfortable.

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Do you have such contradictions before you are blind to your parents and your parents?

A bowl of meals overnight, said dozens of times to let it fall, parents will still be eaten on the table the next day;

A shabby clothes, said hundreds of times, throw away, they were put on them on their bodies.

In life, many people believe that parents' living habits are ignorant and unscientific, so they blame and complain about parents everywhere.

Zhou Guoping said: "Circularity to close people is instinct, but overcoming instincts and not picky people to close people is a kind of education."

If a family wants to be happy and happy, in addition to tolerance for the partner and enlightenment to the child, we must also learn to understand the heart of the parents.

The mother Ma Dong's mother, what she likes to do on weekdays is to turn off the lights.

The lights in the room were on, as long as no one was there, she turned off the first time.

At first, Ma Dong would discourage his mother and said, "Always open and one level, it will affect the service life of the lights.

Mother always answers "good", but then turn off the lights as before.

Ma Dong found that even if he said countless times, there was no way to change his mother's accumulated behavior over the years.

In the final analysis, her mother was used to hard work when she was young, and she begged her to change, and she could only hurt her heart.

Therefore, Ma Dong later pretended not to see this line of his mother.

In this way, I saved my worry about worrying and getting along with my mother.

Knowing that there is a blogger and a similar experience.

His mother is more than 70 years old and often runs to the supermarket to queue up, just for a few free eggs.

Mother's fliches, they are always uncomfortable after getting the eggs and getting eggs.

At the beginning, he often lost his temper for this incident: How much is the eggs worth? How can you toss like this?

Later, he saw his mother's lost eyes, and he began to reflect on himself.

He slowly understood that it was more important than the trivial matter of collar eggs.

The times are more fast, and life is not easy, and it is even more so for elderly parents.

Rather than seeking them in a lifestyle, it is better to learn to understand with heart.

Think of their living environment and think about their years of experience. No matter how much dissatisfaction is, it can be pale little by little.

You know, it is more tight than the wrong comparison, which is always the laughter and happiness of the family.

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Some people say that a happy and harmonious family needs a complete "triangle relationship":

The relationship with the partner, the relationship with the child, and the relationship with the parents.

Only when each relationship is placed in a harmonious position can this big family be maintained in the most stable state.

It is necessary to have a small home, both wisdom that is not right or wrong, but also a pattern of Hainan.

Learn to think in other places, know how to be tolerant and understand, and dumbfounded with ordinary fashion, and the feelings of each other can be warm and long in the years.

Like a praise, I hope you can with your family, laugh at the scenery of the world, share the prosperity of the world, and make your life look like.

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